My boyfriend spends all is time gaming on his computer. We are almost never together. I told him this week that this weekend I wanted to watch an Halloween movie. Friday evening I told him if we will watch it tonight and he told me he doesn’t feel like it and prefer Saturday but will told me if he changed is mind. He didn’t spoke to me again that night. So Saturday I asked him again around 20:00 and he told me it was too early. Around 23:30 I told him I didn’t wanted to do something anymore because it hurt he didn’t care and he blame me that I didn’t asked him again. I told him it’s been more that 10 times he’s doing that to me and everytime he doesn’t understand why I’m mad. It’s been 4 years that we live together, I’m 29 and he is 30 and since the beginning I explain to him that it’s not normal that we never eat together (he eats in front of his computer) and that we do almost nothing together. Sometimes he says he will try to do better but it never happens and most of the time he is just mad at me for telling him this and he think I’m in the wrong. We’ve been together for 10 years and I’m fucking tired of this but I don’t know if there’s still hope.
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Ten years is a long time. Is it wasted time or worth the hump only you know.
Gove him an invite and go make your own plans. Catch-up with friends, go to the gym, hobby etc.
If he doesn’t want to treat you like you are in a couple. Put you first and get a feel of how you can get on with life without you.
You will be surprised at how happier you will feel because you won’t be stewing and waiting for him and a reply.
So he will either notice you are off and want to join you or make plans with you without being the one waiting… or…..
You will realise you’re not a priority. If that is the case…
you will realise you have functioned well without him and move onto putting you first.