My wife and I have been together for 15 years and have 3 children. She is intuitive, caring and spiritual and has maintained a connection to me throughout our marriage reinforced by loyalty and friendship. I love her. We have recently began to notice a change in our relationship and in dialogue understood that her connection to me is gone. We believe that I was never connected to her which allowed me to behave and do things that were inappropriate. No cheating involved but in the early stages of our marriage I thought it was okay to flirt with other women, not take her side or be a friend when it mattered.
With us being disconnected, I have lost what I had historically taken for granted…knowing that when approached by another, she will shut it down out of respect and loyalty to me. My wife has openly told me that she is avoiding people and conversations to avoid a potential connection to another. We agreed that I need to work on myself and concentrate on US with hope of rebuilding the connection overtime.
In the meantime, we are volnurable as a couple and I am SCARED. We have seen a therapist in the past who I will work 1:1 with to hopefully give my wife what she wants and deserved.
Open to advice to how be a better partner to your spouse to ultimately reconnect and know that nothing and noone else in life matters.
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Absolutely nothing matters more than actions. Tell her basically what you wrote here and then prove it everyday. Always put her first. Do the little things that show her how special she is.