i recently started dating my first boyfriend and things have been really great for the most part. it’s both of our first relationships so we’re exploring our sexualities together. we haven’t had piv sex yet but we’ve done a lot of foreplay including oral. the problem is that i just can’t cum. don’t get me wrong it’s not that i’m not turned on or he’s not making me feel good. everything feels amazing just a little too intense. i have a feeling that maybe i’m just too in my head about it. i’ll feel myself on the verge of orgasm and the feeling will just fade despite him not changing anything he’s doing. we have to mess around in his car due to lack of a better space (we both live with our parents who are home pretty much 24/7). maybe i’m just not fully relaxed in that setting and it’s getting in the way. I did cum once, when we were messing around a bit in his room (he managed to get the house to himself) He’s very complacent with everything I ask him to do so it’s not for his lack of trying either.
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You’re probably overthinking things! That’s the number one thing that will prevent you from reaching orgasm in my experience. Try your best not to get in your head about it, relax and tell him exactly what you need him to do.
Sounds like you already know the reason. It can also take some time to get used to external pleasure and to adapt to your partner.
Be patient. Sounds like you are making progress.