I have a great friendship with a guy from work, and recently we have been talking more and joking around which makes me enjoy work more. He knows I have a boyfriend by the way. I feel kinda special when we talk because he makes me smile and I feel like there’s a spark between us.
I love my boyfriend of 6 years but there’s no excitement anymore and he doesn’t appreciate me as much as the guy from work does (probably because it’s a new work relationship)
Today, I found out that he has been trying to take multiple girls on a date from work and finding that out kinda hurt. I felt like we had this special friendship or bond and now I feel just like any other girl.
He’s single so he can do whatever he wants, but it just hurts for some reason.
What do I do?
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Oh boy… I’ve been in your boyfriend’s position. In fact, my ex of 3 years broke up with me on XMAS day of 2021 for the guy at her work that she’s been flirting with for the last few months.
I can’t give you any perspective from your point of view, but I can from your boyfriend’s point of view.
If your boyfriend has no idea that this guy exists and that you have a thing for him, you need to be honest and up front with him. Think about it if the roles were reversed. Would you want him to be honest and upfront with you?
My advice to you would be to be straight up with your boyfriend and then take a week or two and figure out what/who you really want, because it’s certainly not fair to your boyfriend that you’re feeling this way about another man.
He will be hurt, and you will crush his heart, but you have to be open and honest with him considering hiding things is never a good answer.