Should white lies be okay in a relationship? Why/why not?

6 comments

1. It really depends on the relationship and what the lie is. If I ask my partner what might look good on me, I’d want them to be honest in a tactful way.

2. I think it’s important that who’s that lie protecting, the liar or the liee

3. Other people can choose for their own relationships, but, for me: I think there is almost always a way to be truthful while being kind, loving, and tactful without being hurtful, so I’d prefer that over white lies.

4. Depends on the couple.

   For my husband and me, they aren’t okay. My husband is autistic and prefers a direct approach to communication without white lies and sugarcoating, as he has a very hard time with such.
   So it’s a hard pass for us.

5. I think it depends a lot on what lie it is, if it’s something silly like if I look fat with some clothes or things like that, there’s no problem, but if it’s other things like for example that he lies to me about who he goes out to eat with only so that I don’t believe that something else is happening and I get jealous, that’s if it’s wrong, lies no matter how pious they are and no matter how much you do it to avoid making the other person feel bad, they always give way to distrust

6. White lies on a regular basis, no. The only caveat I’d accept is if she’s trying to surprise me.