What are the minimum requirements that you expect from the other person during a date and still they don’t meet it?

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1. That they are equally interested in keeping the conversation going. It is very tiresome to be the only one who seems/is interested.

2. My minimum requirement was being single. Sounds ridiculous but it turned out it’s not that obvious for everyone 🙁 It was very awkward, the guy started talking about his girlfriend and ongoing relationship in the first few minutes like it is completely normal to go on dates with random people while you have a relationship…

3. Like others have said, keep the conversation going and express interest in getting to know me. A majority of the dates I’ve gone on ended up with the guy talking mainly about himself or his interests. It’s rare that a man asks questions about me or turns questions over to me in turn.

   Then they’re flabbergasted when I turn down a second date because “I thought things went so well”. Obviously you did because you got to talk about yourself for an hour or two. You don’t even know what I ate for dinner with you 🙄

4. Not being self centered. A good listener too.

5. Keep the conversation and don’t use your phone. We are here together, it would be appreciated that i did not have to share you with social network, reddit etc.

6. Not wearing sport clothes to a date…

7. Being nice to the waiter/waitress.

8. Honestly, just the fact that they need to be attracted to me. I have had one too many experiences where I was in relationships with men who made constant suggestions and criticisms about my body and appearance.

   They weren’t constructive, by the way. I’ve heard things like “your face is disgusting and you should wear makeup so people won’t stare at us in public,” and “you have no ass; you should work out to get one.” One man even told me that wearing makeup was a “must” for him because he “wants a woman who shows she takes care of herself.”

   I don’t understand why they got with me if they found me that unattractive to begin with. When I used dating apps, I never hid my body size or the fact that I don’t wear makeup. They knew what they were getting into, and still talked to me despite me not matching their preferences.

9. I am surprised by the number of comments that talk about having a conversation, I think it is something basic and even then it does not comply

10. A first date actually took his friend with him during the first date and they’d communicate in a language I did not understand. Several requirements were broken that day.

    But understanding ‘no’ would be a good one as well.