My partner (f22) and I (m21) have been in a committed relationship for several years. When we met, we both mentioned that we were a little bi curious but hadn’t explored it much. Our relationship has been wonderful, and our sex life has been great, but recently we brought up that bicuriosity again.
My curiosity has always sort of stemmed from a place of physical pleasure – I enjoy prostate play and have some toys I’ll use here and there. We tried pegging at one point which was pretty fun. In my mind, I think I’d enjoy a sexual encounter with a man, but not necessarily a romantic encounter (I wouldn’t want to go on dates or be held or anything)
Her curiosity has come from a place of attraction, though – she is not into one night stands with men or women, and says she thinks it would be impossible for her to enjoy an experiment with another woman without some sort of attachment first. The attachment is what would make the encounter good for her, essentially.
We are both very happy in our relationship and are obviously not looking for some complicated love triangle in which she gets attached to another woman and has to then choose between me or her! But, at the same time, we met very young, and I don’t want to deny her any sort of experimentation with her sexuality – it’s something that’s she’s had interest in for quite some time, and I would hate for her to have any regrets about it or to feel as though she needed to go behind my back to experiment (I fully trust her and know that she would not, but you know what I mean)
My question then is this – for me, experimentation is pretty easy. Strapons, toys, role reversal in the bedroom, scratches that curiosity itch pretty well for me. What can I do for her? It’s not really the same for a woman, in that I can’t buy a “pocket pussy” or something for her to experiment with, and she wouldn’t really feel like she got a real experience without forming some type of bond, so it feels like a one night stand or threesome wouldn’t be that conducive to a positive experience either.
I genuinely don’t mind if she experiments with another woman – for whatever reason it may be, toxic masculinity or societal expectations or porn or whatever – but neither of us want to end up emotionally attached to another person in our experimentation. Should it be given up, then?
TLDR: committed, wonderful straight relationship with two bicurious people – does it sound like a complete disaster to explore experimentation, or are there ways to experiment with toys or temporary partners that may help?
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You seem pretty satisfied with your sex life with your partner. Is having a real dick in your ass very important for you? You seem a bit confused. As for your partner, does she crave for another woman’s pussy. I think a good conversation with your partner would be in order.
You’re in kind of a weird spot, because usually the most important part of bringing in another person is that nobody gets romantically attached to them. Everyone will tell you to bring in a stranger, not a friend. If her fantasy requires that she has feelings for the other person it seems like there’s a more than zero chance that it might backfire on you.
Book a stay at an all inclusive adult resort and find someone there to experiment with.
Have you considered swinging with another bi/bi curious couple? May be something to explore. Check r/swingers for more