i (25f) dated a guy (20m) for a year and a half and just broke up with him last week. in january his family invited me on a cruise set for november and offered to pay for the flight down and food and everything, i’d only pay for souvenirs and extras. now she is texting me asking me to pay $300 for a nontransferable/nonrefundable plane ticket, i told her i couldnt afford to spend $300 on a plane ticket id never use and shes saying i could pay it in installments. i never fly if i take vacations at all and im on a really limited budget. how do i navigate this absurd situation? should i offer to pay $100 and say thats all i can do?
$300 is my grocery budget for like two months while their family probably spend $300 per weekend on travel and drinks
tldr my ex’s mom is asking for $300 for a plane ticket after saying she’d cover it. im poor.
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Honestly I’d just block them and move on… It was a gift you didn’t use. You’re not obligated to pay for it.
So your ex’s mom purchased for you a gift, intending to give you that gift in November, and is now no longer planning to give you that gift. And because she can’t return the gift, she wants you to buy it from her instead? A gift that you do not want.
You’re under no obligation to buy this gift from her.
You have no obligation whatsoever. Tell her, you’re sorry, but you can’t pay. Don’t respond to anything after that.
Honestly I’d say you can’t afford the ticket and leave them on read or block them. There’s nothing they can do to force you to give them the money and it seems as though they have the money to spare so I wouldn’t worry about it too much.
thank you everyone i feel so much better. i responded
“im sorry shirley but with all respect, i cant pay that. i cant afford to spend $300 on a gifted plane trip ill never use. i never fly and i cant afford to take extravagant vacations anyway. best of luck and im sorry things turned out this way.”
its funny how the urge to be polite and accommodating can have you questioning yourself, like i got the advice id give someone else if they asked the same thing and yet i couldnt follow it myself without having a couple people say so. thanks team! 🥰🥰😮💨
I find it hard to believe she cannot get refunded. I would probably just give her a hundred dollars, 50 this month and 50 next month and call it a day. Tell her “DRINKS ON ME.” Move on then and do not respond to them after that. You will sleep better. Must be you had a good reason for breaking up with this guy before the holidays.
I believe that gals under “ I’m sorry, but no thanks”, if anyone should reimburse the woman it’s her son.
Just forget it and move on after blocking the whole lot of them.
Good luck