Should I make a push or let her go
I’ve been with my gf since early November, her parents are super strict so she never told them abt me only that she likes this boy, so is hanging out as 19& 20 is very limited and when we do hang out her parents never knew. About a month ago we got into a bad argument, her parents saw the text and told her to block me. She is not the type to be courageous or stand up to her parents so we texted in secret and the most time we spent together in person was 10 minutes in the last few months. One day they came to my job very coincidental, I introduced myself and said sorry they both seemed approved and her father gave me a fist bump. Her father came back to me and thought I was a guy harassing her( which I know of) I was confused and explained to him that we loved each other. He was shocked to hear that but she told me that she told them that. Later on I was blocked that night, but I seen her in person and she was mad at me for speaking to her parents which I would’ve thought was a once in a lifetime coincidence. I had a plan to get my mother and her parents to meet and talk about our relationship. From my understanding her parents not mad at me but they are mad at her, and lost their trust. I really love this girl so on one hand I want to fix it, but on the other hand I feel like she should. What should I do?
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Are you dudes South East Asian?
I’m American, what we will tolerate is totally different (and unfair) when comparing situations.
I think, for you I would advise getting a commitment and honesty from her. This may need to include family depending on your religions background. Try to include as few people as possible, because it really sounds like your GF will be hurt by being the spectacle.
I’m a bold guy. In your situation I would go to her home with the expectation of this being over. It’s so juvenile, and Gamey. I wouldn’t be willing to play it. I hope she comes clean. I would ask to speak with her privately. If she declined, I wouldn’t yell, or be upset in her space. I would just tape/ hand off a letter at the door that said “Well, this is goodbye. Best of luck🍻” block her number and walk away.
The good memories are freely yours. Enjoy them and the time spent. However, also recognize the areas that made you feel small, unimportant, unwanted and not good enough. Those are the areas you need to look out for when you decide to date again.