Throwaway account. I (25f) Lindsey have been living with my boyfriend (45m) Liam for a year plus, moved in with him some months after we started dating. I met Andy (43m) before i met Liam but nothing ever happened between us because he was scared of rejection if he ever asked me to date him. Then i met Liam who asked me out almost immediately. I always suspected Andy liked me but i never asked him so i don’t come off as desperate as a result, i tried pushing Liam away, telling him i wasn’t interested in him hoping Andy would find the courage to tell me how he feels but Liam never gave up and he eventually wore me down and we started dating. Andy waited till i was already with Liam to ask, i had to turn him down. At the beginning, Liam was everything i ever wanted, i fell in love with him and i was glad i said yes, he always wanted to know how i felt about certain things, always wanted to hear me talk, encouraged me to be myself around him, supported me in doing the things i enjoyed. Not so much now, it feels like the moment i open my mouth to say something, he cant wait to shut me up, i get scared to hang out with friends (he thinks i cheat on him whenever i go out), he acts irritated whenever i do those things he once encouraged me to do. I have lost every confidence in myself and i feel so small now. I am depressed and i cry about how far I’ve fallen every day (in secret tho). I cant move out of Liam’s house because i am poor, broke and jobless. I recently completed some certification trainings and i am currently trying to get a job so i can get my life back(no success so far). Andy reached out to me recently asking how things are, i told him about how useless i feel and he told me he can help me get my own place, a good job and monthly allowance for whatever i need till i can stand on my feet on the condition i move out of Liam’s house and also give him access to my body whenever he wants ( a transactional relationship). Things have gone sour with Liam but i still love him, i am greatful for how he has supported me so far, leaving him will hurt him a lot (it wont be easy on me either because LOVE) and i don’t want to be the reason for his pain, i wont be able to live down that guilt. I came from a very poor family and my younger siblings are beginning to chase their dreams, they call me for financial support and i fell very ashamed telling them i cant help, i have never been able to buy my parents gifts and it kills me inside when i think about them. Andy comes with a solution to these problems. I initially had high hopes that immediately after my trainings, i will get a job because of the promises some of my old friends made to me( men with great connections) they encouraged me and promised that if i pass my exams after the training, they will take care of the job search for me. I did, i got the best result among my peers, went back to those who promised me jobs but they changed the agreement and started asking for sex instead. Due to my desperation, i tried to give in to their demands severally but chickened out last minute because i couldn’t get Liam’s disappointed face out of my head. I haven’t given Andy an answer yet because i don’t know what to do, i don’t know if he will change his terms when i eventually agree. Please help.