Growing up I (24M) was more firmly convinced I wanted to get married. However lately that hasn’t been the case. I also realise now I had that firm thinking because that is what was projected in my environment. Once you find someone you get married, start a family etc. I’m in a committed relationship, I love my girlfriend (21F) and I care about her and the idea is that, we’ll get married at some point or at least I have that thinking because that’s the “natural flow” of things.
However lowkey, I’ve been questioning whether I do want to get married.. I think I’m quite far away from that stage so none of this is that relevant yet.. but these thoughts cross my mind more especially with how many peers I have getting married recently. I want a family and I believe I want kids but I don’t really feel strongly of doing that in marriage.. my subtle fear isn’t getting married to my girl but rather just marriage in general.
I have also never had this rosy idea of marriage either .. I’ve never seen it as a dream .. dunno if that plays a role.
Does anyone else share this sentiment? Even for those of you who are married? Do you question being married?
If so, why do you?
3 comments
Humanity develops and changes. What seemed self-evident 50 years ago is somewhat outdated today
Regarding the fear of marriage – the reasons can be the following – fear of a lifestyle change, fear of additional responsibilities and restrictions, not very glamorous statistics that half of married couples break up sooner or later, etc.
To some people, the actual institution of marriage is irrelevant and the commitment is what’s important. Perhaps you just fall in that camp.
Marriage is NOT what it used to be. Now you get married so you can pay a shit ton of child support to see your kids and have your life ruined. The idea of dating and marriage is gone.
The divorce rate I believe has gone up from 51% of all marriages ending in divorce since the early 2k. Me personally married twice. Once for 3 months after dating for 4 years and one just ended after 10 years.
Marriage isn’t something you “need” to do its something that the government once again keeps tabs on all of us.