I think to a certain extent you can argue that certain toys can out perform you due to it being consistent and while maybe you’d want the best out of your partner. I think you’d also feel as if the toy would replace in a sense. (And while it sounds dumb I think there are some people who would say they feel this way) And I know some would just say “communication” but I guess I was wondering are toys a must, and if so do you think you’d get replaced by a toy?
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Nothing is a must. Everything is a matter of consent.
As long as you don’t stop being attracted to your partner, toys are fine. Together and alone. And when attraction stops, the toy might just have been a trigger bit not the reason…
Compare it to cooking. You hopefully enjoy meals cooked by your partner. And you often eat together. But maybe sometimes you cook and eat alone. Sometimes your partner does.
And of course you might also enjoy food elsewhere, ir might even be better than what your partner cooks. But you won’t stop eating his or her food because of that…
You can’t be replaced by a toy. It’s like saying do cars replace your legs? They are just different..
Even if you had a realistic robot, people will always still want the real thing…
Toys are fun, vibrators are great for a quick one. I can wake up and use mine while my partner is in bed and they won’t care because they know sometimes I just want a quick release.
The question on this sub normally comes down to size, I have a dildos bigger than my partner and it feels great and it makes me orgasm but it’s no where near as good as having sex with a hot guy that loves you.
For most people, toys are not a “must” but can help to add variety and spice things up. My wife used to be opposed to all these things, but has now embraced them.
If a toy ends up replacing a partner either sexually or as an overall “relationship” partner, then that partner was a shit partner to begin with. A toy can vibrate – which a dick or vagina simply can’t do – but at the end of the day it is just a piece of silicone. If you are contributing nothing to the relationship (friendship, companionship, shared experiences, help with house chores and kids, etc), then yes, you could be replaced by a toy … otherwise not so much.
Toys are not a **must**, it varies person to person but some people may struggle without them. If you don’t want anything to do with toys, that’s up to you.
It’s all about mindset, the way I see it, toys are just tools for me to get my partner off in different ways, we have a couple drawers/cabinets worth. My partner even has a toy bigger than me, but if I’m an option at the time she would always rather have me. You can’t be replaced by a toy.
I didn’t even have any toys before I met my current partner and had very little experience with them before that either. I had told him I wanted to try some even had them shipped to his house. The first time I brought toys out with my partner his reaction was a positive “so many options!” We only use them on occassion. Mostly the magic wand. Have also used plugs. He’s used a dildo on me to do dp and I think I may have used it while giving a BJ before. He’s secure enough to not feel emasculated or jealous of hunks of plastic. Sex is great without toys too, and there’s no doubts about physical attraction to eachother.
“I think you’d also feel as if the toy would replace in a sense. ” – Nope, its a tool, not a replacement
“I think there are some people who would say they feel this way” – yes, people with major insecurity issues
“are toys a must,” – No, but about 50% of couples in the US use them
We use toys about 1 day a week to spice things up, I can do things to her with one of them that I simply cannot do with my fingers, and she is more comfortable using certain toys on me (prostate stimulation) than sticking her fingers in my bum.
Toys are a means to provide pleasure, but they don’t cuddle, kiss, or do any of the other things a human can.
We (39F & 40M) use toys often when we masturbate and during sex. I buy her toys to enhance her pleasure and explore herself sexually. There’s no replacement for the real thing.
We incorporate the toys during oral, anal play, and during PIV (using a couples vibe, her using a wand on her clit in doggy or reverse cowgirl). You can also invest
In a vibrating cock ring that will stimulate her clit during PIV