Do you ever find that you are a bit of a hypocrite when judging the other persons actions while dating someone? Why?

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1. Like the person I’m dating or other people in relationships while I’m dating around?

2. we are all hypocrites in some way. what matters is how you deal with it once you realise it

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4. Generally, the things I find most annoying in other people are things that I myself feel self critical about. I think most people are that way. These days, I try to notice that and not be so judgmental of others.

5. Oh I think I can definitely be a bit of a hypocrite, everyone is, and I think mostly because of this reason : we judge people based on their actions and we judge ourselves based on our intentions

6. Definitely, and when I do I try to either adjust my own behaviour, or come back from the thing I was judging by realising it isn’t so bad as I do it too

7. I can think of a very specific example. I won’t date anyone who has a job where they work irregular shift patterns even though I work irregular shift patterns myself. The reason is because we would never see each other and never be able to co-ordinate time off together. This makes me a hypocrite but I don’t care.