So we met on hinge, went on a date back in September. I got out of my previous relationship in August and wasn’t really sure what I was looking for – I was open to hookups or something more depending on how well we clicked. I really vibed with the guy, our interests seemed to be eerily similar (music, films, political views) and I didn’t feel nervous or fidgety around him – I am an anxious person in general, and when I’m around someone I don’t know, I get an instant feeling that tells me whether I should feel safe around them or not. When he asked me why I’m on hinge, what’s my end goaI, I just absentmindedly replied “nothing serious, hookups I guess?”. We went back to mine and had sex and I thought I’d never see him again.
We kept texting sparsely over the whole of September, planning to meet up but we never did. It was either him or me who had an excuse. One time we agreed to go for a drink and I was too exhausted from work so I couldn’t make it. The other time he had a similar thing going on and our plans fell through. We stopped talking for two/three weeks and I forgot about him. I just moved into a new place, when he texts me out of the blue asking if I wanna meet up some time blah blah. I text back saying sure, why not, I live in a nice area maybe we could check out a bar or do some outdoorsy activity next week. This was last week. He’s probably waiting for me to text him and invite him, but I’m not sure that I should be the one texting him for the following reasons:
– We don’t text consistently. We basically stopped talking for three weeks and then he randomly texts me. This kinda put me off a bit because if you really want to see the person again, you will make it clear when and where you want to meet up and when you are not available.
– I have proposed some options of what we can do and an idea of when we can go out and he hasn’t done that. He just asked if I want to meet up “sometime”.
I liked the guy and although we met only once, I do want to give him a try because I feel like we’ve had good chemistry and it’s very rare for me to open up with someone on a first date and not feel awkward and uncomfortable. But I do feel that maybe he is just bored and texted me because of that?
So my question is: should I text him and follow up on the meet up or should I just delete his number?
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I think it’s up to you and if you want to hook up some more. You laid the ground rules and probably he’s not interested in all the extras that came out of the box. For me, I like things that are easy and organic. If it’s a hookup it works there, if I want more it works there too but they are not the same IMO. I am careful about consistency. How you start out is often how you end up. I’m a woman.