Growing up, I was the quiet loner kid who was nice and got along with people, but my friends would abandon me to go after the popular group.
So, now as a 24yr adult, there are people from work who seem to genuinely like me and want to hang out. But I just cannot fathom, why would anyone want to ever hang out with me.
It psyches me out. And when someone wants to hang out, I always feel there is an agenda behind it, but there is not, they seem to just want to genuinely hang out.
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Do you always wonder about that whenever someone new appears in your life and wants to get to know you? You don’t feel like you have anything to offer, and maybe you find that your previous friends who have left is ‘proof’ that you indeed had nothing to offer to make them stick around. But I’d say that’s not it, that’s not proof. I think there is something in you that other people see and enjoy, but you don’t believe that is true for you because of the people in the past who didn’t stay. But you can be likeable – it just doesn’t feel true for you right now. Your life experience made you feel like you have nothing that others can like – but if you do hang out with people now, you are questioning this again. It is scary – I felt something like that too.
I’d like to have this problem
It sucks, but you have some unresolved issues it sounds like.
People want to hang out with you because you seem interesting. They want to connect, they enjoy your company.
Sure, at work it might be sometimes that all they’re doing is “networking” because it benefits them, but that’s a part of the work environment you’re in if that’s the case.
I have this issue as well. Not with many ppl, just a couple. I m so bad to the point that it bothers me and I start pushing ppl away