Context: M19, F20 we both had multiple sex partners and are what I’d call rather experienced for our age. We’ve been fucking for a few months now and she only came a few (2-3?) times, exclusively with a satisfyer on the highest level.
I do like to believe I’m pretty good at oral/fingering (got most girls off with my tounge in the past), and she gets her pussy eaten thoroughly every single time cause I love eating girls out. She told me she only came sometimes from her satisfyer in the past and generally has trouble getting off, That’s why I bought a satisfyer to keep at my place and she uses it sometimes. I‘m pretty sure she enjoys sex with me, she always initiates (can almost not keep up with her lmao), and enjoys oral and penetrative sex but I want to make her cum consistently. Despite that, I never succeeded.
Should I accept that she’s got a hard time getting off and let her just finish herself with the satisfyer after sex? Convince her to use it while I fuck her? Or do I need to step up my oral game?
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Make playing with the toy part of foreplay. That way you’re sure she gets off, and if she does again later on during PIV or whatever else you do, bonus!
>Should I accept that she’s got a hard time getting off and let her just finish herself with the satisfyer after sex? Convince her to use it while I fuck her? Or do I need to step up my oral game?
I think there has to be some acceptance, don’t give up but have a understanding that she has trouble orgasming. That could be for a number of reasons. Don’t pressure yourself, she told you herself she does not orgasm easily. I would talk to her about bringing the satisfyer into the bedroom, that really depends on if she is comfortable with it, and you are aswell. There is also nothing wrong with learning what kind of oral technique works best for her, communicate it all with her and listen to her suggestions.
Maybe use the satisfier more often if that works. But my best advice is just a lot of communication. Talk about it and try out what works for you both. As long as you both enjoy it there is no need to focus that much on cumming. In fact that can just become a stress if you focus to much on it.
And some people just have it more difficult to cum, also some medications like antidepressants can also make it more difficult.
It might be worth asking her how much she uses her toy in her free time. People don’t like to acknowledge it but using a vibrating sex toy too much can condition your body to only cum from that stimulus. Men have many variants of this.
Doesn’t matter what you’ve done in the past with other girls. Everyone is different and no offence meant you are most certainly not experienced by any stretch of the imagination. Continue to spend time learning what your new girl likes. Make it the most enjoyable experience possible regardless of what you think you’ve done previously.
I thought I was experienced and good in bed. Then I met my wife, we have good sex now but all women are different. What worked for one woman may not work for another.
Oh convince her to use it while you guys fuck it feels fucking incredible. Another thing you could do is use it on her during foreplay, we use mine, I hold it on my clit and he fingers me and this makes me cum so hard. It’s great that you bought her one to have at yours it really shows you are invested in her pleasure so no wonder she enjoys fucking you so much!
What kind of response do you get when YOU suck her clit instead of using the Satisfyer?