I’ve never been someone who needs a relationship to feel happy or even thinks much about it. I am actually quite happy as a single. However, if I do become interested in someone, the emotional side always happens way too fast and I become kinda obsessed.
It’s been like that ever since I was a teen. Usually it does take a while for me to even become romantically interested in someone (at least a few months of knowing them) but sometimes it goes faster. However, from that point on that I start to think of someone romantically, it quickly gets to the point where I think of them constantly and feel emotionally almost in pain when I don’t see them for a while. I also do stuff like googling their name just to learn more about them, or looking at pictures of them like on social media. And no matter how I try to stop it, I definitely imagine scenarios in my head of our potential first date, relationship etc.
A few times I already was emotionally invested like this before I could really make a move, so by the time I find out somebody’s taken or just not interested I am already so obsessed that if I get rejected I feel very disappointed and blue for sometimes weeks. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t show this on the outside though. Everytime this happens my mental health declines so much that i can’t think of something else, drop all my hobbys/can’t concentrate on my job and stop eating healthy.
Any help?
tl;dr: How can I learn to calm down and not become obsessed when I have a crush?