Have you ever dumped someone who was good for you? Why?

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1. We were a great match and really liked each other but we ended up at different colleges and had aspirations that would not allow us to be near each other anymore. Long distance sucks, so we broke up.

2. Being good to you and being the right person to you are different things (at least for me). Someone can treat you good, give you all the love and affection that you need, but still not be the right person to you.

   Even if your personality matches (i.e. there’s no fights, you get along well, etc.), It doesn’t mean that you’re good together. Sometimes you need someone that helps you grow, that you feel challenged in some way. Someone that stokes your fire and makes your heart race. Someone ambitious and fearless. Someone that wants to challenge themselves as well. But instead you have someone that just loves you and is good to you, but never changed, never evolved, it’s the same person you met. If you have an ambitious and adventurous personality, that person that is content being who they are might not be enough to satisfy your needs in a relationship. So you, being the better person, end that relationship, even though that person was/is good. Because being good is not the same as being right.

   PS: I hope it makes sense…

3. No I’m not that self destructive

4. No.

5. Nope.

6. I didn’t dump her, exactly. I walked out and never came back, after making a huge mistake and seeing what I really was at that time in my life, reflected in her eyes and face.

   Someone you care deeply about looking at you like you’re a monster does shit to you.

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   Heading it off at the pass, I didn’t cheat. I beat someone to within an inch of their life, because I wasn’t yet mature enough to have internalized *”sticks and stones…”*

7. I find the worst people for me are the ones who insist they are good for me

8. When I was in college I sorta dumped a girl for stupid reasons, mostly lack of experience/confidence. Prior to her I had always been treated like garbage by women so I didn’t believe that she actually liked me. When she wanted to get serious and started getting all over me I quit talking to her because I thought she was just messing with me.

9. I thought for a long time I dumped someone that was the right person for me.

   Why? Because we had between us some kind of weird connection (We were really affective with each other, but she had the attitude of a spoiled girl that tired me time to time).

   Years passed and I realized that it was the best for me to let her go out of my life.

10. Yeah. She was great to me but I didn’t have feelings for her and I had already stuck around too long trying to force myself to develop them. Wasn’t fair to her.

11. I did because I’d wouldn’t have worked out in long terms and it would most certainly have come to an end one year later anyways. I just figured it would be better to accept the pain at this moment than getting the full load later.

12. Nope, every single person I’ve dumped has been toxic.

13. I was in a relationship with a girl for a year and she was great but I just wasn’t feeling it. That was a hard break up because she wanted to know what she did wrong and she didn’t do anything wrong.

14. Yes . She was great but at the time I just wanted to fool around with everything in my path. I don’t regret it because it’s made me who I am but I do think back at it and can’t help to say “what if”