I’m a 33 yr old reasonably healthy guy. Ever since I was diagnosed with ADHD (6 yrs ago as an adult) I’ve had a terribly difficult time finishing both alone, but especially with someone else. I have no problem staying hard though. I was always a little slow to the finish line, but I’ve recently been dating someone who I’m VERY attracted to and can’t do it. It’s definitely psychological at this point. I’m worried she’s going to take it personally. I’ve reassured her it’s my issue and not her fault. Does anyone have any tips or advice? Techniques I could implement when it’s “go time?” I’m going to stop masturbating until i figure this out. Appreciate y’all!
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Stopping masturbating is the first step.
If that doesn’t help you may need to see a therapist.
Might be worth experimenting with talking through sex. Try breathily stating what is happening while it’s happening. Like a sexy sports commentator. That can ground you in the moment, and either get you out of your head, or so deeply into the mood that you’ll pop. She may also find that kind of commentary scorchingly hot.