It’s been 8 long months. I broke up with him because he cheated on me. Ruined my mental health, my social life and physical health down the line too.
He said he’s demisexual when we first started dating and that if I ever breakup he’ll never find anyone and here i find out he’s already got a new crush.
Meanwhile I’m still recovering. We dated for 3 years. Any little thing that reminds me of makes me cry immediately.
Yesterday I saw the same shoes he had in a store and i held them in my hand and i had tears welling up in my eyes.
An old vase he gave me sits in my window and i can’t bare to move it. I haven’t touched it since.
Is it weird that I still kind of love him after 8 months but he’s moved on? Am i sour loser? Am i too emotional and soft for still being hung up on him?
TL;DR : Is it weird that My cheater ex already has a new crush while I’m still getting over him?
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We don’t control our emotions. It’s kinda like “am I weak because my broken arm is taking so long to heal?” It takes as long as it takes, and it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.
Sometimes moving on to new people doesn’t mean they’re over it, sometimes that’s just a part of them getting over it, that could be the case.
This may sound harsh, but another possibility is he has already been grieving it secretly. Sometimes when a relationship sours and ends, is because one partner lost hope and struggled with it long before the breakup happens. Maybe such breakup was no surprise and felt like a long time coming to them