What are all the things a woman can do to a man in bed? (Or out of bed) He gets tired out these days so I’m going to treat him to something more relaxed on his end. He’s been having trouble finishing lately from stress so I want to make it super relaxing and sensual for him; get him in tune with his body again. I’m a trained masseuse so I’m tempted to do some spa treatments at the same time but as men, is that something you’d like? I’d ask him myself but I’m keeping it a secret for now. Give me all the suggestions you have!

Edit: looks like some people need this:
“pillow princess (slang, originally LGBT) A person (typically a woman) who wants to receive sexual pleasure but is not interested in giving it.”

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  2. Milking. I bet with your masseuse skills you would be able to drive him wild. But like in a relaxed way 🙂

  4. First off dont put on any pressure for him to finish or anything, not saying it’s your fault but men, myself included, can sometimes get so stressed or in our own heads that we cant finish. If he is an aggressive dom then I’d say wear something skimpy but dont do anything to him durring the massage. Make yourself irresistible but make him take control. If he isnt a dom or a sub in one way or the other than I think he would love to get a massage, if you want it to be sexual and hes in the mood then just make it an erotic massage and take control. Pretend like hes a high end client and your some random sexy masseuse, if hes into roleplay. If he is super stressed because of work then I’d say dress sexy but put on a football game and give him a massage. Men need to relax sometimes and if his head isnt clear then hes not gonna perform well. Sounds like you mainly want to do something like roleplay so set the scene and play it slow, slowly rub closer to his crotch and after you have given him most of a massage, start to lean into it a bit more. He will love it, if he doesnt well then I cant help but you diddnt do anything wrong. Hope this helps!

  5. My wife does this for me in similar circumstances and it is amazing! She’ll do a big massage starting with me on my stomach and then I turn and lie on my back with lots of little teasing and touching along the way, and from there she has all the options she wants, we usually go for 69ing to finish but that just our preference (it’s nice because by the end of the massage we’re both quite hot and bothered).
    It’s not super crazy sounding but it is super relaxing and I definitely feel like a “pillow princess” when we do it. I think it’s just the whole having the focus on me part that gives me that extra love feeling and the additional build and time to unwind before sexy times really helps.
    So I feel very confident saying your husband will love it and it is a fantastic idea!

  6. I love treating my bf to a sensual penis massage, or another fun thing is having him lay on my lap and I give him a handy while he sucks my tits. Also having him lean back against you and you give him a hand job from behind, allowing you to caress his hair, kiss his neck, and spoiling him. Of course eating his ass would also be nice if you’re into that.

    If he still wants to be a giver but not in as active of a position you can ride his face or cock. My bf loves to eat me out even if he’s tired, and sitting on his face takes less energy and we both enjoy it a lot, and then I get to cum too :3

    I found that my bf also loved it when I gave him a romantic bath; I washed his hair with a pitcher and did the candles and massaged his shoulders. He felt so loved and spoiled, I was so happy to give that to him after a long hard day. If you want to do stuff that’s not just sexual this might be fun to try 🙂

  7. I so appreciate this post. Makes me feel good about humanity , even if for a brief moment. Someone who loves someone and doing something nice and sexy for them is always a good thing in my book.

  8. I sometimes give my partner a full body massage (I’m not trained so like it’s probably not amazing but the touch would still be nice), followed by all over body kisses and then a riding. His moans during the massage and kisses are as good as during sex lol, I’ll take that as a job well done.

    If I don’t want to ride, I give a hand job or head job or a mix of both, teasing between the two.

  11. There is a genre of fetish called “cock worship”. It is pretty in line with what you’re asking, I suspect. I definitely suggest looking it up. The TL;DR is that his penis is treated like it’s the only thing in the world that matters. A lot of oral stimulation, a lot of eye contact, a lot of hand massaging.

  12. Yeah….. this would be amazing!

    I saw someone suggest tying him down. I highly recommend this! My wife did it to me not to long ago, and it was awesome.

  13. How about learning how to do a Tantric Lingam massage on him since you’re a masseuse 🔥🔥🔥

  16. Blindfolding can help block out distractions so he can focus solely on your touch and his feelings. I’d avoid pressure for him to come. Just tell him you want to pamper him. Or you could give him options throughout – tell him it can be sexual or non-sexual and you just want him to spoil him and make him feel good. Then you can just read his body language and go with your gut or ask from time to time do you want me to ___ or ___ with both sexual and non-sexual choices.

    Love that you want to spoil your man! Very sweet and thoughtful. ❤️

  17. Absolutely, some spa work never hurt anyone. As a man, I love it! And as a woman you are less likely to give a 30sec shoulder rub and try to slip it in. Lol

  18. God yes men like to be touched sensually, why wouldn’t we??? Start of with just a sensual massage no inherent sexual touching just something to relax him, then turn him over after a while like a good 20-30 minutes then start massaging his chest and torso etc. if you want you can kiss his body gently throughout then do what works for him to turn him on then if you two are into it maybe ride his face if he likes giving if not make it all about him and get on top in his preferred position with you on top.

    Best of luck to you!

  19. You can also give him a boob job. Whilst he’s lying on his back, you can start with giving him a blowjob when it’s wet move up and start massaging his dick with your boobs, whilst licking the tip. Make sure to keep it wet.

  20. I do some light femdomming and I love to give facials to good boys. Prop him up on some pillows so his torso is at a 45 def angle. Tell him he has to keep his eyes closed the whole time. No peeking.
    Start with a Cleansing towelette, let it dry and do some fondeling. Rub a cotton swab of cold toner all over his face and neck for a few minutes, let that dry while playing with his nipples. Do a sheet mask. Those have to sit for like 10-15 minutes then his face has to dry, do some nice oral. He’ll be reeeal relaxed by now. Then You have to apply a serum and let that dry. While it’s drying, this is when you get on top and ride him. But real slow. Just a nice comfortable screw. Maybe fan his face to get a hot/cold juxtaposition. Pick up the pace a little while you apply moisturizer. Put on lots of moisturizer and spend some time really rubbing it in. Massage his neck and the tips of his shoulders too. Lightly touch his ears and gently play with his hair. He should be pretty primed by now. Then tell him he can open his eyes. Maybe have on some nice soft lingerie, something silky with spaghetti straps so he can watch your breasts jiggle. At this point, let nature take over and just have a nice time together. 100% guaranteed he will be mush.

  21. Play with it. The biggest turn on for a guy is when the girl LIKES the penis. Play. With. It. Toy around. Juggle it in between your hands. Rub it slowly but like you’re enjoying what you feel. When you give a BJ, play with it, enjoy it, even if you hate it, ACT like you’re enjoying it. He will love you evermore.

  23. I really like cuddling up on the couch, watch something while lying with my head on his belly.
    Just start playing around with his flaccid penis.

    Then I just go for what I call “a lazy blowjob”, play with your tongue around the tip, and just gently suck it. With my dude it always ends up in a not so lazy blowjob, but it’s still a nice and relaxing way to play around a little

  26. If you spend an hour throating him and you are truly into it, he will feel better. My partner usually has my really long hair in his fist to keep it out of the way. I learned to pull it up in a pony tail and force him to relax – he is a pleaser and wants me to either sit on his face at the same time so I can cum too to try’s to get me to move so he can touch me so I will cum. What I wasn’t telling him was that I orgasm while throating him and he just thought all that noise and moving around was me into it – yes so into I orgasm. When he realized I was spasming from an orgasm, he found it so hot that I was that turned on that he finally relaxes and let’s me just go. We have no problems I just hate to see him so concerned about my pleasure and he is very dominant in bed. He literally tried to pull me off once and said I feel bad about how much work you are doing – you are sweating literally- I pushed back and said please let me finish as I was sweating because I was orgasming as well as keeping it together and not lose momentum.

    There are a 1000 things you can do to make your man feel better
    – a shower
    – a bath
    – a massage
    – use a vibrator on yourself for him
    – find that spot on his penis that is as close to a g spot on a woman and kiss and lick and suck it – he will get hard fast
    – buy lingerie and let him rip it off
    – go to a sex shop and ask for advice or better yet FaceTime him and let him select whatever he wants you to bring home – he will be ready and waiting
    – let him know with a thank you text after the next day and be detailed about what he did and why you were grateful
    -ride him and let him watch you cum and then ask him where he wants to cum in you
    -more to tell but I think moderators will stop me

  27. Lately, after a good round one, after we’ve both orgasmed… If we have time (we have kids, so having time for sex isn’t always easy to find) I’ve really liked just talking with my wife and making out. We talk about things that turn us on, fantasize or whatever, while she gives me a handjob. I’ve been coming so intensely from that. I guess the weed/edibles also help, haha. Anyhow, after that I’ll return the favor 🙂

  28. Men love to pamper their women when they’re showing support. It’s so wonderful to see women who get that sometimes men want/need the same. We’re all here to feel loved and cared for.

  29. As someone who appreciates a good massage, I’d love to have a woman who loves me use her skills on me. And follow that up with cuddling and whatever that leads to.

  32. Damn , these comments are just making me depressed I don’t have a partner like ya’ll. 😂😂

  34. Calling you husband a pillow princess is wrong, its a term created by the lesbian community

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