My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months (turning 8) and we already established this as a serious relationship. We’re open with our past so questions have been thrown around about our past flings and what has happened since then.
I noticed a while ago during a facetime call that when he shared his screen to show me something, in an app, he had searched his fling’s account. idk if there had been interactions and i don’t want to check his phone because i want to trust him. However, her name popped up in my head recently and so I looked at his followings and he still follows the accounts of some of his significant flings.
How can I bring this up without sounding threatened or insecure?
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I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that as long as he’s not doing anything with them that he wouldn’t do with a platonic friend. I’m connected on social media with a couple of my exes and my girlfriend is connected with a few of hers. We have occasional, but not frequent, interaction with them. Neither of us is concerned about that because we know that those relationships are over and that we’re together now and we trust each other.
So my opinion is that unless you see evidence that something inappropriate is going on with them (like a significant amount of interaction or flirting or sending nudes or something like that) then you don’t bring it up and don’t worry about it.
Why does it matter?
What could possibly be wrong with keeping all options open?!? What!!!???!!!