Something I often see in this subreddit is the idea that one date isn’t enough to feel the “spark.” I’ve come to agree with this over time, and as an introverted person who appreciates routine, it takes time for me to warm up for new people, including people that I date.
For those in this subreddit, how long does it normally take for you to get used to a new person? How many times do you like to see someone in person before you make a definitive judgment?
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You’re an introverted person who likes routine? Sounds vaguely familiar. I don’t meet anyone in person really. Rarely go out except work or dog walking/cycling. Not too good at dates or starting new jobs. Met some really nice people on my college course. My recommendation is to take up a night school course. People get to like you and seem genuinely pleased to see you. And you can demolish them in grades at the end! Love.
I don’t date someone if there’s no spark on day 1. The spark is important and led to all of my most fun and happy memories with women. It makes it way harder to end if things aren’t working out though, because I always want to turn that spark into a forest fire and end up getting burned