Question around bj’s

10 comments

1. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to, and if you feel like you have to give him bj at all then that Is a red flag. It’s your choice whatever you want to do, he should be fine either way.

2. If you dont enjoy it tell him that, sounds a little like ur forcing urself into doing it just because he likes it.

3. Most people don’t enjoy giving oral sex. The enjoyable part is pleasing your partner.

   Try and recognize the “power” that you have to pleasure and please him.

   If it’s only once a month that you’re okay with then perhaps try giving it to him at random times instead of during sex.

   Edit: replaced no one with most people

4. It’s okay to not like it and not do it. There are plenty of other sexual things you can do… But if you really want to try to make it a better experience for you, maybe try adding in some flavored lube. Could also use a male sex toy to help along the way.

5. If you’re not comfortable with it, don’t do it. Sexual things should be something both of you can enjoy. There are things that have to be done even if you don’t like it, but sexual acts aren’t one of them. He probably wouldn’t be so happy to receive them if he knew you didn’t actually enjoy it.

6. What part of it do you not like? My man and I talked about this and he understood after being forced and having a man cum in my mouth without permission, that being cummed in the mouth would most likely make me vomit, but I still want to perform oral sex on him and I trust him, but its the taste of cum that turns my stomach, so we compromised and now I use a condom when I go down on him. We take it off when he wants to be inside me (he has had a vasectomy, and we had both been tested and clean prior to dating). It was an awesome compromise cuz I actually do enjoy the act of performing it, I just can not handle cum in my mouth.

7. Not gonna lie, getting your dick sucked every once in awhile is not a lot to ask from a partner. You shouldn’t feel guilty, he’s clearly happy enough with the situation to not push you for more

8. Depends on your comfort level, and willingness, if you could make yourself get over it to make him happy? You could try, if you can’t get past it? He gets what he gets and he needs to respect that, just remember to respect yourself

9. Feels great to get a BJ and its a hella good way to relax and zone out for a bit, my advice is if you don’t like doing it or you feel your not doing it often enough then i would recommend learning how to give a dam good handjob, (I’m sure you can look it up with out having me explain it) he will feels great gets to relax and you don’t have to get your face a mess.

   PS if you doing things out of your way to make him feel good he should be doing it back, So he better be learning some tricks for you too.

10. I don’t enjoy them either, my husband gets one way less then once a month, but I will do it for him when he asks nicely.