This is a little uncomfortable to ask, but I’m really frustrated: I (30F) have a new partner, who is amazing on a lot of levels. The issue comes when he goes down on me. The first time, I got a BV and sorted that with an OTC treatment. The second time was worse, and I had to get antibiotics. We‘ve had 2 sexual encounters, with only the second resulting in sex (condom on). We aren’t seeing other people and I did a full sti panel/gyne check after the first time and everything was fine. Now a month later, I’m back at a BV. When he goes down on me he \*really\* gets in there, which I appreciate, but I haven’t had that with other partners because I get off with clitoral stimulation, so it’s never gone this deep. I also know saliva can change vaginal PH balance, so I feel like this is contributing to it. Thing is, he loves it and is quite proud of his abilities, so I don’t want to discourage that (esp since I’ve had my fair share of selfish dudes that wouldn’t even bother going down). But seriously, it’s uncomfortable (and expensive) having to treat these. Has anyone else experienced this? Any solutions or suggestions? I want to have sex with my partner but this is a really frustrating and kind of embarrassing situation.
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A couple of things come to mind. Number one, have him use an antiseptic mouthwash, like Listerine immediately before. Number two, have him not go so deep. Explain that you love what he’s doing but your body for whatever reason just can’t handle it so at least for now stick mostly to the outside. Good luck.