It isn’t a problem for me most days but every now and then I’ll have a day with more anxiety than usual and that carries into my sex life. When that happens to you how do you deal with it and what has helped you in preventing it and dealing with it in the moment.

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  1. I’ve had it since age 19 and I have a boner pill subscription for it. It’s generic and cheap in the USA now

  2. Remind myself that even in perfect circumstances, sometimes it just happens. Out of the blue, for no reason at all. So don’t beat yourself up.

    And sometimes it can happen to indicate that I am under more stress/anxiety than I even realize and that I need to take a step back from a few things in my life right now.

  3. It’s one of those things where once it starts, it’s over. I’ve never been able to stop it with any one partner.

  5. It’s perfectly normal to have off days. If Mr Johnson isn’t up to it, then just tell your partner you’re not up to it today. They should understand.

    Or just use the Zapp Brannigan line. “The mind is willing, but the body is soft and spongy”

  6. I literally don’t give a fuck. I don’t have control over my arousal. I’m either aroused or I’m not. I don’t put any pressure on myself to perform. I’m not a fucking robot. Maybe I’m tired. Maybe I just jerked off. Maybe I’m not that into her. Maybe I’m worried about something at work. Could be a million reasons. If it’s make or break, I’ll spend a lot more time on foreplay (which gets me in the mood) and give her a bunch of orgasms with my fingers and tongue. Maybe I have sex with her the next morning when I’m relaxed and well rested. No big deal.

  7. If it happens, it happens. I just tell my partner, my buddy ain’t in the mood. I’ll still get her off though.

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