It’s getting bad for me to control it. Everytime i try to control myself for not getting angry at minute thing, i just can’t , it irritates me too much.
And i can’t keep my mouth shut when angry. Which makes things way worse. The reason why i open my mouth while angry is ” i forgot to shut my mouth” or ” i know that i should keep my mouth shut, but I’m totally right(which I’m not) , so I’ll speak”
1.Whatever the case i can’t keep my mouth shut in the end. What to do about?
2. How to stop being short tempered?
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I read “The Chimp Paradox” recently, that might have some interesting/useful advice for you. Basically, you can train yourself into acting rationally instead of reacting irrationally.
Have you read the book Being Wrong by Kathryn Schulz ([TLDR here](https://memod.com/Cian/sometimes-our-beliefs-turn-out-to-be-wrong-this-is-148))? I highly recommend it. It breaks down very thoroughly why we so often believe we know all the facts, the assumptions and self-deception that our brains our wired to do which makes us so passionate (and maybe short tempered) about defending what we believe.
If you learn more about the cognitive distortions we as humans are prone to, it may help you when you find yourself in an argument.
I also love the simple red, green, yellow method of staying calm during difficult discussions. If you can’t remember anything else while arguing, remember to check your emotional thermometer – are you **green** (go, calm, feeling good, having fun, enjoying yourself) **yellow** (proceeding with caution, beginning to feel irritated, blood pressure rising, tense) or **red** (Stop. Too worked up for anything productive to occur. Heartbeat racing, thoughts racing, elevated voice, etc.)
Simply recognizing when I’m feeling yellow has allowed me to stop and walk away from disagreements or majorly disengage before things get destructive.