I (F23) am supposed to be friends with this guy (M24). We used to text pretty much everyday, or talk everyday or every other day.
He never said specifically to me or anybody that he had a girlfriend but me and other people suspected that he had one, but he kept it hidden.
Until recently, he went to Paris and that is when he revealed his girlfriend to everybody. He changed his Whatsapp picture to her. I asked “who is she”, and he said “she is my girlfriend”. Apparently he has been with her for over a year but kept it hidden from everyone except his closest friends and family.
Now he doesn’t text me anymore, he has completely changed when in person with me, it feels like a completely different person. He isn’t as friendly or talkative to me anymore.
I feel upset I don’t know why.
What do I do? Why am I feeling like this?
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Some people just distance themselves from their friends once theyre in a serious relationship. Not much you can do but kiss the level of platonic intimacy you had before goodbye.
If the dude wanted to maintain the friendship as it was, he would. But he doesn’t.
Whatever he was getting from you, he no longer needed.
Who knows for sure. Might be company, emotional intimacy, etx
He doesn’t want his gf to know he’s been chatting to you all the time they’ve been dating. She may even have told him to stop when she found out.
Move on, he’s not a genuine friend.
I’m guessing you were “friends” because he saw you as a potential fling or partner but now that he has a girlfriend who he is official with he no longer needs you. A lot of people (men and women do this). You make your circle a bit smaller when you have what you want and aren’t searching for something else anymore. As you said his closest family and friends already knew about her so you aren’t even in that circle it’s no wonder he would distance himself now. Your friendship has run its course and he’s choosing not to pursue it any further.