If she explained the reason she can’t is due to being sexually abused as a child and that oral sex was something she was forced to do, as such, she has severe trauma surrounding it in addition to jaw problems, would you still be open to being with them?
Edit: I’m the one with the trauma and issue with giving blowjobs — just want to clarify that
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My wife has had terrible jaw issues for about a year. I can’t really say it is an issue. I *like* blowjobs, but I *love* her. No contest.
I have in the past. I don’t want to live that life again. So, no, I’m pretty unlikely to enter into a relationship knowing that it’s never going to happen again so long as we’re together.
>would you still be open to being with them?
Terrible sexual trauma is an additional reason to be incompatible with someone, as only very particular people are going to have the right temperament for someone dealing with that.
Yea, overall it’s no issue. There are other options – like warm oily handjobs for instance.
I’ve been dating a girl for a few months now, I asked her once if she would give me head and she said no. I haven’t brought it up since and don’t plan to. Yes I enjoy it, but she is the most amazing person and still amazing in bed and the sex and intimacy make up for it completely in my mind
I would as a one off. Not a long-term relationship unless it was an open relationship.
That said some guys don’t like BJ’s. Yep they are out there. They would be fine.
I would rather be with my girl than get head tbh
If a woman explained your story to me, I’d never ever pressure her for oral, and would still date her.
I have gone without oral for much less, lol. Once dated a virgin girl who was initially uncomfy with both giving oral and receiving penetration, so she only received oral and fingering at the start.
I prefer giving to receiving and take too long to come from oral anyway.
No, not again. I love giving and receiving and I have been fooled that “if you go down on me I go down on you”
Yes
100%
Intimacy and commitment is more important for me. Like matching energies and vibes..if that makes any sense.
My wife doesn’t do oral. We have been married 27 years.
Im completely indifferent about blowjobs. Literally don’t care. Most of the time don’t even cum from them.
So yes I would
No
My wife of 10+ years does not like to give head. I have mentioned this in a few threads already and it’s absolutely fine that she does not do that.
Yes even without an explanation, simply because everyone is different and everyone has at least one sexual act they don’t/like doing.
It would depend, but I lean towards no.
Long story short, I like giving and receiving oral. My spouse stopped liking to give, and doesn’t want to. I don’t want to force or pressure them. I really really miss them, but won’t ask, and they have never offered. It feels shitty, but I’m a bit resentful about it. If I were to somehow end up in a position to date someone new, not reciprocating would be a deal breaker for me.
No
No chance. I’d make it clear early on though and not string it along.
I have a pretty big dong, so nobody I’ve ever been with has really been able to handle oral much, including my wife who I’m very happy with both sexually and generally (I’m sure there are plenty of women who could, but it’s a numbers game and my body count isn’t that high). The BJ situation doesn’t really bother me at all.
Maybe I’m just saying this because I’ve never had an 11/10, life-altering blowjob, but I prefer sex 100% of the time and don’t super care about blowjobs at all.
Absolutely not.
Consent is everything when it comes to anything sex and I wouldn’t force anyone to do anything they don’t want to, but if you don’t want to do oral don’t expect for me to do so for you. Exceptions are those who physically can’t due to trauma (physical/psychological) or other medical problems.
No. To taste each other is the most intimate thing for me. I love giving and want receiving.
A passionate blowjob is the greatest satisfaction for me.
My first wife, she was extremely orally fixated. Porn star quality BJ’s. My present wife, absolutely not. She has a legit reason, her ex-husband raped her and forced her to blow him. If she bit him, he’d beat her senseless. We’ve been together 26 years and not once has it been an issue.
I would not. Sexual compatibility is needed in a couple.I would have been very sad if my wife was not an oral expert.
Hi woman here. I personally couldn’t date someone that didn’t go down on me, but I also like giving head a lot so I feel it’s not one sided at least. I’m sorry this happened to your friend.
Nope. Not even a 2nd date
Yes, I am in a relationship with a woman now who doesn’t.
It was easy at first, but I’ll be honest. It’s gotten harder as time goes on, and has almost has turned back into a fantasy.
I couldn’t do it personally. Love head too much to ever commit to someone that doesn’t do it