does any one here talk to your crush everyday knowing there is nothing you can do more about it ?

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1. I did this is a lot when I was 13 years old. But I quickly learned it is not very productive

2. I do this, and tbh I’m fine with it. I like someone who’s been a friend for a long time, but he’s in a committed relationship. I know he’ll never like me back the same way, but the fact that he’s still in my life as a friend means more to me than any romantic relationship I could have had with him.

3. I am talking to a girl that I like very much and she likes me too. Too sad we can not be together because we live 2000km away and she has no chance to come here for at least 2 more years. So yea, cutting contact soon. For our own good.

   ETA: We come from the same hometown so we know eachother. But we do not like long distance relationships.

4. Don’t be so passive. Take control of your life: cut off all contact, change jobs if you have to, and go date other people.

   Or you know… suffer in silence for years until you finally figure they’re not even all that and you wonder why you wasted so many years you’ll never get back…

5. I talked with my crush for two years until yesterday when I told her I’m into her. She didn’t responded well to that. It feels shitty but worse is not knowing.

6. It’s never really happened to me. I’ve always let them know how I feel. They either go with it or we go our separate ways to find other people.

   You deserve someone who wants you back. When you’re orbiting someone who doesn’t want you, the space you have for a relationship is being fill already but with something that isn’t working.

7. Its worse after they know and still choose someone else. I see him happy everyday and now their walk and body language is in sync as well. Sheesh. I am gonna die single.

8. Yup

9. Do like the Frozen song and Let it goooooo….

   Put some distance and see if there is a reaction.

   Then you put things into the open.

   Crushes can become toxic over time. And in the end you will do a disservice to them and to you because you are creating unrealistic expectations of uncondicional friendship and they will run towards the next person that treat them like a sex partner and not like just like a cute friend.

   You are afraid of converting your crush into a relationship because you enjoy the friendship too much.

   Go for it. Resent your crush, put them in the freezer, and if they react then reset the relationship. They need to see you under new eyes.

   I have said too much.

10. Yes but we don’t talk everyday. We are in different phases of life- and that’s ok. I can still admire him from
    Afar

11. How do you know for sure you will be rejected? If you do nothing, nothing will happen.

12. There are lots of people in the world, and being a hand wringing villain watching an active relationship isn’t noble.

    It also isn’t a service to yourself to put a whole lot of attention into someone who won’t/can’t/doesn’t reciprocate.

    You have to take chances, and not waste your time. The only aspect left in life after that is being kind.

13. No. If you don’t try you reject yourself. Put yourself up the risk and go for it. Or don’t you think its worth it?