TL;DR: JUST PLEASE HELP. IM A FISH OUT OF WATER. WHAT DO STRAIGHT MEN WHO LIKE TO BE DOMINATED LIKE??
So I guess this is a two-parter question. I’ve always been a submissive gal in bed, with men and women. It’s just always felt right, turned me on, whatever. However, I’ve never TRIED being dominate per say.
I finally hooked up with this guy I’ve been on three dates with now and it seems like we like each other a bit/ like we will have some journey together of some kind. I told him pretty directly what I like in bed once it started heading there (in sexy way ofc) and he did really well. However, after, I could tell the little, somewhat dominate things I did seemed to really get him (biting a little harder than normal, stuff like that) so I asked if he liked being dominate or if he did it for me. He said he mainly did it for me but didn’t mind it.
I don’t love that. I want someone to REALLY LIKE the shit they’re doing in bed, so it was kind of a bummer. So:
1. What do straight guys typically like when being dominated? I know I like having my hair pulled, choked, any part slapped, is it the same for straight men? I know it varies by person obviously and I’ll ask him directly but it could be fun to spring some stuff on him.
2. Does it ever work out between two submissive people if I absolutely don’t like being more dominate?
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I’m a switch and I fuck best with switches. I have sex with all genders but my only partner now is a man. He likes calling me mommy. He doesn’t like hair pulling but many people in general like hair pulling. We both like choking, being spanked, and using blindfolds. My boyfriend especially enjoys being tied up by me. I’ve been taking rope classes for almost a year now, and I own two books on rope bondage (one is beginner friendly while the other is for advanced students). My lover doesn’t like handcuffs but loves feeling helpless. He is significantly taller than me but let’s me pin him down by his wrists. We’ve been seeing each other for a year so I know we’ll what kind of dirty talk he likes. I personally really enjoy dressing up in costumes. He likes the costumes (French maid, sexy nurse, etc) but I think he prefers lingerie and heels. My partner told me early on in our relationship that he likes being stepped on (heels) and peed on. You could ask your partner if he likes being slapped and having hot wax dripped on him. I hope this helps.
your voice is your best tool. Tell him what you want and how to do it. Get feisty with his cock and balls a bit too. You can tell him to top you a few times eventually he will understadn what you like and vice versa
Talk openly about it when you arent fucking as well that way itll be in both your heads before you get naked.
Ride his face and suffocate him (safely of course). While on top pull his head into your pussy and grind but don’t let him pull back.
On your back, clamp his head in with your thighs, tell him he better fucking eat you out.
While fucking, refer to semi degradation – things like “fuck me harder” “is that all you’ve got, pound me out you pussy ” – he’ll get that caveman sexual rage and then flip a role reversal on you into dominance mode and your sex will sound like sprinting in flip flops.