My seatmates are laughing together and I’m the only one left out

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1. Instead of waiting for them to reach out to you, reach out to them. Join their conversation–if you can, don’t butt in. Also, don’t worry that they are leaving you out. They aren’t doing that on purpose and I’m sure they would love to include you. They probably “aren’t including you” because they don’t think you would want to be included. If you aren’t making an effort, they don’t know.

   I was in your situation a while ago, and I understand how it feels to think that people are leaving you out of things. Honestly, my problem was that I wasn’t making an effort to talk to people, I just expected that they would talk to me. What helped me be more social is just by talking to people (I know this sounds super cliche but it’s true). I stopped worrying how people would perceive me because people are too focused on themselves to notice you and any “flaws” you think you may have.

   TLDR: Just be confident and talk to them first, don’t wait for them to include you.