I’ve been invited to a coworkers birthday party. I committed to going but now I’m feeling extreme anxiety over it.
The party place is over an hour away and I don’t have any means of transportation. Which means I’ll have to find someone to give me a ride from and back.
I don’t know anyone besides 2 or 3 people, and those people know everyone. So I don’t want to be clinging to them all night like a child.
It’s also a Halloween party so I’ll have to be wearing a costume. AND will probably have to spend the night if I don’t find a ride back home.
The vibe in my company is *very* laid back. It feels more like a frat house than a company. And I’m extremely shy and closed off. I often come off as awkward and when I don’t speak people give me the typical “why don’t you talk more?” speech.
What can I do to survive this?
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Invent a tummy invasion with possible consequences? Maybe related to being female or not seeing eye to eye with the lasagne the night before, and it was so tasty too!
Just saying that if you don’t want to go and it’s making you ill, find a reason. If it’s ok to stay the night and you are comfortable doing so, we’ll take off. Have a great time and make sure you talk with every person there and get to know them. Keep away or break the shell that’s holding you back.
I encourage you to do some parties and whatnot to socialize, and an invite to a birthday party is a nice way to get to know people, but man… over an hour away when you don’t have transportation? That’s a good enough excuse to have said no, honestly, or mention to the person who invites you that you can really only come if someone can carpool you.
Is Uber not available in your area?
Just cancel and give your apologies