I’m so frustrated I feel incompetent. I’ve (f22) never been able to squirt. I’ve masturbated since I was like 14 and never have I squirted or come close. I’ve tried to, but when however i make myself come, if by clit, fingering, dildo, etc., my usual orgasm is the normal vagina pulsing/gets tighter/throbs. Now I have a bf (m34) and he’s told me he loves squirting and it’s like his favorite thing. When we have sex he’ll try to make me squirt and it never works. We don’t try too often because I think he’s low key given up. He said it’s fine if I don’t squirt, it’s not a big deal and that we’ll have time to figure it out and learn what works, but I feel so embarrassed after and like broken I can’t do it. we had sex today and he literally tried for 10 min straight fingering me from behind and rubbing my clit and I couldn’t do it. And if I had cum, it’s just the internal type of orgasm I always have. Knowing that’s a turn on for him i want to squirt so badly and it’s really getting to me mentally. After sex I’m just upset and he knows it. I hear all these girls who squirt so easily and it comes naturally how do you do it?? Any advice please??
Edit: and to top it off, my boyfriend told me every girl he was in a relationship before could squirt which really hurt my feelings and made me feel different. I don’t think he meant to make me feel that way but obviously I did.
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Not everyone can do it.
Have a few kids… That’d help
I’ve never been able to squirt and many women can’t. I hate when men expect this.
Your lack of squirt is no tragedy, nor my lack of sensitivity in my cock (I don’t cum easily). Our neurology is not our fault, in fact it might be a feature to explore. Best wishes and good luck.
It really bothers me that people feel inadequate that they can’t squirt, this is literally porns fault. Squirting first of all is mostly fake in porn and its become a manufactured part of sex. Not saying people can’t do it because they can but it’s not particularly something everyone can do, squirting is deliberately aggravating a part of your anatomy until you lose control and it’s not even particularly a sexual thing. You are young and you probably have a good control over that area , you probably won’t be able to squirt.
Also you aren’t going to enjoy sex with him now because he’s trying to make you squirt and not orgasm. Just ask him would you rather I pee myself or actually cum ? That’s how I look at it .