please answer the following question: in a married couple (in this case a man and woman) the woman works and the man stays at home, who should cook? Why?

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1. Whoever stays home should, it should be a shared effort but naturally the one at home would be able to look after cooking more often.

2. The one who stays home should take care of the house and cook imo

3. There’s not enough info here to make a decision. As a general rule, whomever has more free time would be expected to dedicate more time to assisting with relationship tasks.

4. This is a 100% my situation. No one should be compelled to cook. I do all the cooking but that’s only because I love cooking but not because my wife is the breadwinner. If I didn’t like cooking we’d probably just eat out more. Forcing someone to do something they don’t want to do isn’t really a marriage it’s more like a control dynamic or something.

5. The one who stays home.

   You can’t be bothered cooking when you come home from work.

6. man, if someone else is paying the bills for you, you can at least do something to pay them back.

7. I think it makes way more sense for the person who stays at home to cook

8. So in my case we both currently work full time, but I might stay at home in the future since my lady makes a lot more money than I do.

   At that point I would do probably the bulk of the cooking since I’d have more time, but she happens to be a better cook than me, so she might take on certain dishes at least at first. Without working I would have time to practice and learn to cook better.

   As far as other house chores and grocery shopping and that kind of thing, I’d handle all of that.

9. The one who cooks better, and/or the one who has more time for it. Ever team is different and arrange the workload accordingly.

10. Well you can’t cook from work. You can’t let someone stay home for eight extra hours a day and not get anything done.

11. >who should cook?

    ¿Lunch/Supper? Whoever stays at home.

    ¿Dinner? It should be a toss up depending on the mood.

    >Why?

    Cooking is stressing and can easily get to someone’s head if that person doesn’t only have to do it every day, but also more than one time each day (Reason why i only eat once a day).

12. Unless your day is so packed with chores you don’t have time to cook then you do

13. man. a friend of mine is doing this

14. If one partner is not working, they should at least keep up with the household chores. Though cooking is not necessarily a chore for some people. They just like to cook.

15. Assuming that the person staying at home is working and/or taking care of kids or something other full time task, then it’s whoever wants to cook or agree on the splitting of duties.

    If the person staying home is just hanging out unemployed or whatever then they should take up most of the housekeeping duties.

16. GrubHub!!!!

17. The one who stays home.

    You got this answer several times in your other post.

18. Who ever has time and wants to. Usually the one who likes it does it but if you stay home, it’d be really nice if you cooked.

    A good tip is keeping a pocket book with recipes and things the people in your house don’t like to eat.

19. They should decide among themselves. There are too many variables. Staying home with children, one can’t cook, one loves to cook for the week on Saturdays, or they do that as a family…

20. I don’t know who SHOULD do it, but if I work 8 hours a day + commute, I’M certainly not coming home just to immediately rush to get dinner going….

21. Depends entirely on the couple, and what works for them.

    Dividing up tasks is important, but it also matters how each person feels about those tasks in the first place. If one partner loves cooking, awesome. But they probably don’t want to be expected to always do it.

    In the end, it comes down to what you negotiate between each other.

22. Both, because it’s funnier

23. Everything should be decided by the couple themselves

    But personally if the division of labor is financial earner vs home-maker, the home maker should be cooking dinner

24. They should talk. Then whomever they decide to do the cooking should do the cooking.

    Like, y’know, a marriage is supposed to work.

25. IMO, both should find ways to contribute to the marriage/family equally in their own ways, whatever they decide on.

26. Who likes to cook? Can both cook? Who cooks better? Whichever is stay-at-home should do the majority of the housework, but that doesn’t mean the other should do none. If the stay-at-home can cook, they should cook most of the time.

27. Whomever they decide between them.

28. The one that stays home and takes care of it should cook.