Is it suspicious my wife is deleting certain text convos from her phone?

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1. I’d say yes, but if she’s OCD then maybe not. I’ve deleted text convos that are not important to me, but sometimes you need to keep certain ones that have photos/information that you need for later.

2. I delete autotexts, like appointment reminders or log-in codes to sites. I don’t think it’s automatic cause for concern unless you’re anxious about this because she has an existing pattern of behavior that crosses lines.

3. I’m always clearing out spam texts, delivery update texts, verification code texts, etc. I never delete my personal texts in case I need to refer back to them. But everyone is different. In my opinion, a good rule of thumb is to trust until you have a good reason not to trust. It’s probably nothing if nothing else about her behavior seems off.

   Plus it’s getting close to holidays.. so keep that in mind, lol.

4. My wife deletes her message threads all the time, except for important stuff like appointment reminders, or texts from me. I know there is nothing there because she let’s me have full access to her phone and vice versa, as well as sometimes reads a text from a coworker so we can laugh about it if it’s something silly. She just really likes having a clean inbox. On the flipside, her Facebook messenger log has conversations since we first started dating over 16 years ago. It’s just one of her little quirks. I wouldn’t immediately jump to suspicion unless something else is also giving you cause to worry.

5. I don’t have much space on my phone so I delete everything I’m not using weekly.. texts included.

6. Check the phone bill. If there’s one particular number you see with tons of communication you might want to do more research. Don’t let on you suspect anything or she may go underground. Of course deleting texts is a red flag.

7. I delete texts & emails once a week. Just general housekeeping.