How do you signal to girls you are not together as friends, rather, you are interested in her?

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  2. With words.

    “Do you want to go on a date?”

    It’s hard to misconstrue that as friends hanging out

  4. The outcome. Is there a desire for a follow up, or would we just see each other again whenever it happens?

  5. Simple. By asking her out on a date or asking her if what we are going on is a date or not.

    State your intentions. If she wants to be friends and you want to date you’re wasting both your time and that’s kinda a dick move.

    Know what you want and be bold about it.

  7. In my experience when a guy is on a date with someone they position their body closer to the person than they otherwise normally would. They stand closer, they talk a little bit closer, they lean in a little bit closer. Whenever they’re just friends and that’s been established guys typically stand at a regular, friendly, distance.

    Even sometimes eye contact I guess. Now that I think of it a guy is more inclined to engage directly during conversations with someone they are persuing more so than they otherwise would whenever they’re just conversing casually

    That’s just what I’ve observed anyway. Hardly concrete evidence but 🤷🏻‍♂️

  8. If it was an arranged time and place, it’s a date. If they are like come over whenever then it’s just hanging out. Typically it’s not a date if you are invited over to someone’s house unless they ask you over to dinner and it starts at 6pm type of thing.

    You could just ask the person if they feel that it is a date or not.

  9. It’s the same thing as long as I make it obvious that I want to take her on a date. Sometimes it’s dinner, sometimes it’s just hanging out at the beach or a movie.

  10. Men are usually pretty direct. “I’d love to take you out to (dinner, a movie, etc.),” versus, “Wanna hang out at my place?” One’s a date; one is hanging out.

  12. Ok so if I’m interested in a girl and I wanna take her out on a date, rather than just hanging out then I’m gonna make my intentions clear from the get go.

  13. Date: a purposeful, romantic event where two people are together doing something, dinner, movie, games night, tickets to something

    Hanging out: no purpose, “just come hang out we’ll watch a movie,”

  14. Usually the word “date” is involved when I propose the meet up.

    It’s that simple for me anyways.

  15. If you go out to do something, it’s a date. If you stay in to do SOMEONE, it’s hanging out.

  16. This is kind of subjective.

    In my view, a good date is indistinguishable from a night of hanging out, with the only difference being, slightly more sexual tension.

    I’m just as happy, personally, sitting down and watching cheesy B-grade horror films, as i am pissing off the downstairs neighbor with the sounds of creaking beds and floor boards.

    but for another guy, these two things are entirely different.

  18. Mutually expressing romantic interest is a date. Lack of such, even from one party would be hanging out.

  23. I have never in my life used the word “date” when I asked someone out on a date. The world is not black and white and one thing can lead to the other (and vice versa). When you meet someone that you would like to get to know better, you spend time with them and then see where it goes. Nowadays people are just obsessed with putting everything in boxes and labelling them.

    But to answer your question: You’ll know by the end of it what it was. If there’s chemistry it was a date. If there wasn’t, you were hanging out. And even then, things can change later.

  24. To overcome nervousness when I was younger, I made no distinction between a date and just hanging out.

    There’s really no difference anymore, unless we go out somewhere really special. If I’m wearing a shirt that has buttons, it’s a date.

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