I have a first date for 6 days from now but I’m not sure what’s an acceptable amount to text?
I am a very chatty person so ill have a conversation with anyone but I don’t want to scare him away by talking too much before we’ve had a date, yknow?
And how should I message again when I do if he doesn’t message anything in a few days? Just confirming for the date or asking how his day is going?
Any advice would be appreciated, Ive been single for a hot minute and am not exactly sure how to go about this
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I went on a first date last weekend, asked her out a week before, and we texted basically all week leading up to the date. We didn’t run out of anything to talk about during dinner or our walk afterwards.
probably at least 12-15 times a day, especially if he doesn’t respond.
Amount of texting really depends on the person. Most guys I date have texted me practically every day, and I myself do the same. The key is to see how receptive this guy is to your texts. If he’s receptive you be receptive, if he isn’t receptive back off. Your key-strategies are observing receptiveness, and knowing when to end a conversation. So have an excuse ready in case the conversation is going no where or something seems off and you need to make a quick exit.
I always mirror the guy’s texting style and wait for him to initiate the conversation in the beginning. Someone with emotional intelligence and two brain cells will put in the effort to show you that they’re interested.
My ex and I were very chatty immediately. My current partner didn’t text me between dates unless he was confirming our date. It’s still kind of like that; he’s a very sparse texter. I like texting a lot, but compromise because the time we spend together is worth the trade off.
You shouldn’t get ready for a date until they’ve confirmed the details with you 24 hours in advance. The dudes who don’t confirm ghost me 9/10.
Talk to him about communication expectations. How often do you like texting with people you’re dating? It’s up to you if you like what he has to offer.
I usually recommend not making first dates that far out for just this reason, you feel like you’re in limbo for days. I’d settle for 2-3 times a day, try not to double text.
>I don’t want to scare him away by talking too much before
If he’s keen, you won’t scare him away.
That being said, I usually advise guys to minimise texting before a date. Too easy to say something that may offend the girl and make her change her mind. You can recover from a faux pas when you’re face to face. When you do that over text (even if you didn’t mean to offend) it’s block and ghost, and you’re done.
nothing wrong with sending him a text and asking how things are going? and if you are really excited about the date tell him.
I don’t text as I don’t know the person and also I find being too available turns girls off. Phone is for setting dates. I would message at some point saying you will turn up as girls are super super flaky these days . The guy would appreciate that.