Men, how could your SO talk you into quitting/giving up a bad habit of yours ex. smoking, nail biting, overindulging.

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1. Well it’d be no different than any other habit formed elsewhere. Look for a replacement you can give him to handle the cravings.

2. Nothing can if they don’t want to quit themselves and trust me i know your intentions are good but slowly you’ll turn into a nagging Wife/GF

3. Lots of sex helped me stop smoking,but that only lasted for a year

4. Lead by example

5. Don’t try to convince me to change, I know there’s something I have to change when there is one. At best you could remind me, not too regularly, that the habit is there, and not with accusations but with something like “Are you doing ok? Because, I can see you’re doing this and usually it means you’re not going well”

   In then end, I’ll probably stop faster because I wouldn’t want to worry my SO for nothing.

6. /Honestly? someone will only stop if *they* want to.

   For example Dave Mustaine, went into rehab (drug/alcohol addiction) 16 times. Never got sober. but on his 17th, he got sober and has been for years. Because it was the first time *he* wanted to. all the other times he was forced by his family or court ordered. he didn’t see the problem and so he didn’t change.

   That’s not to sat there aren’t things you can do to encouarge them; gently and lovingly talk to them about the danger and effects, give up something with them, suggest healthier coping methods that they will enjoy etc.

   But ultimately, there will only be (long lasting) change if they want to

7. Those are really different things. The bottom line is tell him how it makes you feel. If he’s drinking to the point where he’s going to put a hole in his liver or drive drunk, then I think it’s reasonable to have a conversation where you express your concerns about his health and safety, and how much you don’t want to lose him (or whatever your specific concerns are). If he has a gross nail-biting habit, that’s maybe a lower-stakes conversation. I think in either case it might be helpful to ask him what else he might be able to do to reduce his stress that he knows works for him, but doesn’t have these consequences.

8. “ex” isn’t a thing

   It’s “eg”

9. This girl I knew (and thought I loved) would playfully try to get me to stop vaping. When she stopped playing around and really sincerely asked me to stop, that’s all it took. Because I loved her and didn’t want her to be concerned.

10. They can’t.

    Nothing, no type of way they say it is going to make me magically want to stop unless I already wanted to.

11. She couldn’t.

12. She couldn’t