So I LOVE giving blowjobs. My boyfriend tells me it feels good but he can never stay hard while I’m doing it.
I noticed this last time that he really didn’t seem into it at all so I asked him if I needed to change something up.
He said no but I brought up that I noticed he didn’t seem to like it and that maybe we should have a discussion. I let him know that it was okay to give me pointers if I’m not doing it the way he liked. I even let him know it’s fine if he just doesn’t like blowjobs all that much.
He insisted that I’m doing nothing wrong and he still wants them. But honestly it’s a turn off to feel him get soft in my mouth. I’ll try different things but he refuses to give me pointers saying he likes how I do it now.
Lately I just haven’t been doing it and he noticed when he asked if I wanted to suck him off and instead of my usually eager yes I just said “if you want I’d love to”
He didn’t like that and said I’m taking things wrong and making a big deal. I wouldn’t mind if he’d be willing to give me some tips on what feels good for him.
I know everyone is different and likes different things but I’d like some advice on how to satisfy him.
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Is he dealing with any kind of depression or anxiety
OK see the pressure is now getting to him.if a guy starts over thinking the blood that’s supposed to keep that boner hard goes else where ie to the brain .just both relax take your time .watch the teeth and have fun
Like others have mentioned, it’s probably a mental roadblock rather than a physical technique issue. I’ve had some success lately with giving my husband BJs as part of a relaxation scene/focus play. Like, I set him up nice and comfortable and just tease and take time building up sexual tension. I tell him how much I like sucking his cock, try to give a good show, encourage him to watch, etc. I feel like once I get him out of his head (brain!) he can relax and enjoy. My husband also needs a lot of shaft play to get the most of out a BJ.
In the past, my husband would *say* he liked BJs but then he would get start getting soft, or just want to transition into PIV quickly–apparently he was self conscious about receiving and feeling like he didn’t deserve it or something.
So sorry you feel like this. What an amazing partner you are. So far you sound like everything you are doing is normal and perfect. When a guy goes through a temporary ED issue, it can be unexplainable. He is probably more confused, upset and lost than you. All you can do is communicate positively, be supportive and dial back any pressure. Sometimes as quick as ED turns up it disappears, also unexplainably. I wish you luck.