Men of reddit, i have a question. How often do you cum during a BJ? I have been reading a lot saying that men usually can’t cum during BJs and I would just want to know in general whether guys cum or not while having oral sex performed on them.

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  1. If I’m getting a BJ and it goes long enough, I will definitely cum from it. I’ve always been able to and it’s something I really enjoy, actually as it feels different.

  2. Depends on the partner my ex loved when I finished in her mouth and would insist on finishing me off with a bj . My current partner perfers cream pies and I finish inside her do she starts sex with a bj

  3. If she knows what shes doing, yea ill come. If not, naw I won’t ever get to that point

  4. It really depends on the situation. Most of the time I’m getting a BJ it’s part of foreplay and I want to be aroused but not actually cum. A BJ can also be tricky for guys because we’re less in control of the situation – your partner is typically controlling the rhythm, etc. (This obviously also applies to women who are receiving oral too). I’ve most often cum from a BJ when it’s understood that it’s just a BJ.

  5. I can only say my husband always finishes. The simple fact of the matter is a lot of women don’t realize it’s mental for a guy. Technique matters, but so does his brain. Men are visual, but dirty sweet nothings matter too. When I whisper in his ear, “I wanna go upstairs and blow you!” That sets a mood.

    Sometimes, when a blowjob is going on too long, I climb on top of him in a 69, tell him I’ve wanted to put my ass in his face and feel how wet I am from blowing him… it’s not romantic, but it finishes him off.

  6. I haven’t cum from one since my college days (now mid 40s) and a couple of my recent partners give great blowjobs… I’d say it’s pretty normal.

    I do assume however that we *could* there, though after 10-15 min of sucking my cock they are usually ready to get fucked so we move on to that.

    Definitely food for thought and something I’ll challenge a partner to do!

  7. If she wants me to come from it, I let her know the use of her hand and a good steady rhythm is key to finishing me off

  8. If its the end goal, every time.

    Sometimes its more foreplay, or we switch to something else cause the moment takes us, otherwise, since my fiance came around to swallowing, I’m fairly certain no blowjob went unfinished. That said, she’s very good at it, and im *very* into them, so yeah, those two things help.

  9. I’ve never cum from a bj but I think it’s because I have a mild case of phimosis. And if she sucks too hard it actually hurts. PIV in missionary is the only way I can cum.

  10. Sometimes it takes me a long time to cum from a bj, and when that happens, i know my gf gets tired.. so if i know she wants me to finish in her mouth, I’ll give myself a handjob while she licks my balls (and usually i won’t last long doing that), if not I’ll just have sex with her

  13. This was something we had to learn as a couple. Many men are trained that their role in sex is active and responsible. They need to be doing something that will give their partner orgasms. My wife basically needed to train me not to try and stop her to switch to PiV sex.

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    Even then, it could be hard for me to relax into that because I needed to believe it was something she wanted to do.

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    As I got more comfortable, it started to happen but there was always the sort of hand-off moment because I needed to be aware enough of what was going on to give warning so that she could switch from oral to a hand-job so I wouldn’t cum in her mouth.

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    A few years ago, she pulled me upstairs, locked the bedroom door, and said, “I’m going to suck your cock.” She pinned me down onto the sofa and went crazy on me. She was being more enthusiastic than she ever was before. As I got close I was trying to tap out and warn her that I was going to cum and she went ballistic and started deepthroating me as I was cumming. It felt like my soul was leaving my body. That revolutionized our sex life and we’ve gotten kinkier and kinkier since then. It has been amazing.

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    Some of the key things we learned:

    * I needed to believe it was something she wanted to do. It makes her feel sexy and powerful.
    * You can use dirty talk to make your partner comfortable
    * Switching to hand stimulation at the peak results in a less pleasant experience for the receiver and causes stress about tapping out
    * Deep-throating during orgasm is one of the most amazing things ever
    * If it isn’t intended to be a foreplay blowjob, tell the receiver you want them to cum.

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    TL;DR – When I was younger I couldn’t cum during a BJ because I was uncomfortable. As we built trust and my wife learned technique and dirty-talk, she can almost always make me finish.

  15. I’d say I have an orgasm about 10% of the time I get a blow jinx my wife can make me cum from them, but I prefer to orgasm from vaginal sex. She dives oral about a quarter of the time we have sex (sex 3-5 times a week) but usually as foreplay and won’t make me cum from it unless she isn’t up for penetrative sex that night.

  16. I rarely cum from BJs even from women who are very talented. I think its partly because I like ‘being in control’ so having her doing the work isnt my natural wiring, and related to that Im a ‘giver,’ I LOVE going down and doing that to her turns me on way more than her doing that to me.

    The other thing is I got the snip snip at birth and Ive always wondered if that dulled my nerves down there since even my first times w oral and vaginal sex I couldnt cum. It may also explain why I love anal so much because its the one act where the sensation is enough to make me erupt.

    That being said, Im not going to turn down a BJ either lol! They still feel and look great and I consider it a part of ‘the journey’ rather than the destination lol!

  17. I haven’t cum from a bj alone, end up turning it in to a face fucking sesh.
    Thats what it takes for me to cum. To have more control. Didnt realize this until i was older. Thought i was one of the many that would never enjoy cumming in a womans mouth… very pleased to have overcame this.

  20. I thought head was ok before I got with my wife, but now I love it and I think about it all the time, and she has made me cum countless times from head. I will say enthusiasm is a huge deal for us men. If your woman is eager to suck your dick, Instant hard on with the desire to cum from it.

  22. Never happened to me but it can happen depends on her technique, but either way even when it doesn’t happen it’s still hot and i enjoy it 🙂

  23. Takes me a long time so I usually don’t get it cum before they quit. But if a girl is has an hour to spend putting in the work, I’ll eventually get there.

  25. Depends on the skill of the woman tbh. Up until my ex-wife, nobody had ever made me nut from head. When my ex-wife and I started dating, she couldn’t do it either, but she wanted to and was determined. She eventually perfected it where she could get me to cum in about 10 minutes. After my ex-wife, it became more common to the point of about 50/50. Only that gluk gluk can bring about that nut nut.

  26. What are you reading that says men usually can’t cum from a blowjob?

    Not that I would ever base reality on porn, but like 99.9% of porn would just be wrong if this were true.

    It all depends on the guy and it all depends on the person giving the blowjob.

    It would be like me saying, I read a lot of women can’t cum from being eaten out. That is simply not true. It just all depends on the woman and the person performing oral sex.

    Honestly, I would say the majority of men can indeed cum from oral sex. Not all. But, many.

  27. Very rarely, I can’t count on both hands the number of orally induced orgasms I’ve had my entire life (30m). And it’s not for lack of trying on my partners part.

  28. My partner has still never been able to unfortunately, I’ll keep trying though 😁

  30. Yes men can cum while receiving a blow job. You will know if he does cause you should feel his body stiffen a bit or you will feel and taste it as it enters your mouth. But there are some men that can’t get off from oral stimulation

  31. Everyone’s different. Personally I cum 9/10 times specially if at the beginning but some men don’t and it’s ok

  32. Well, you never wanna cum in her mouth when it’s just a foreplay blow, that’s for sure. But when that’s all she wants to do… that’s a damn fine way to start your day.

  33. I don’t cum usually but a bj like a intense one in which the passion and the madness is involved and goes a long then may be I goes on and cum 😂

  34. Every single man I’ve ever blown cums if I blow them for more than a few minutes.

    Sometimes I want have sex after so I only suck them for 3 minutes or so. But if I want to finish then off with my mouth I always can.

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