Why can’t I have multiple orgasms as a woman?

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1. People always say that, but not all women can. It’s normal for refractory periods to be different.

   In my experience with my SO, She can have different types of orgasms (vaginal, clitoral, anal) back to back, but cannot have the same kind back to back, we have to switch. Unless we’ve had some THC. Then we can go again and again and again however we want.

2. Some women just can’t. You could try chasing different orgasms though. IE: Have a g-spot orgasm and then go for a clitoral orgasm. Maybe after that you could go for another g-spot. Since everyone is different, you won’t know unless you try.

3. > people always say

   My mother still doesn’t like to spend money on the first day of the month because it’s bad luck.

   > but after an orgasm

   My SO straight up told me she is a one and done for the day kind of person. Some people are like that.

   Now, as for trying to work up to multiple orgasms, you’d have to try out different things to see what works and gets you going. Sometimes it doesn’t even have to be physical.

   Slow build ups, erotica, different toys, etc.

4. I think you just need to keep learning more about this. Try following some cam model and amateur porn models. These adult content creators usually have a place where you can ask them questions so you could as them how they have multiple orgasms. Also look for sex therapist who have podcasts and post online there always look for questions like this to answer on their podcast and social media. Some of them you could even call into and speak to them directly. You don’t have about privacy because you can just give them a fake name. Also try getting different types of toys cause maybe your body can have multiple orgasms one way but not another. Like for example maybe you could have multiple anal orgasms easier then than g spot orgasms. Try combining them together get a toy for your g spot, a clit toy and a butt plug all at the same time and see what happens. All this needs to be done by yourself so don’t feel rushed by a partner. Also try different types of lube until you find one you really enjoy. Try spending more time giving yourself more foreplay. Like during the day before you masturbate when you get home do little things to turn yourself on all day. That you body and mind are already extremely turned on before your start pleasuring yourself. When you cum try to keep track as to how long it takes for your to be able to go masturbate again. The idea is not to cum again but if once you cum you body is not open to any more sexual touch how long does it take to for your body to become open to more sexually touch. After an orgasm try keeping yourself turned on or start immediately turning yourself on again. So once you have cum continue to watch porn or read erotica. If you keep practicing turning yourself back on again you’ll eventually find yourself turned on again.

   Just remember this is going to be a very long journey so don’t focus on the end goal instead focus on enjoying the journey.

5. Everyone is different and you shouldn’t compare yourself to everyone else. My wife is very similar she can usually cum within minutes of PIV if I go down on her for a while. But she usually tries to hold herself back because she knows if she does cum, I won’t be able to keep going.

6. Because it’s not necessarily true. I can’t either and it made me feel really inferior but then I heard from other women and realised it’s just normal.

7. Not every woman can have multiple orgasms, just like not every man is one-and-done. Bodies vary a lot.

8. I used to be like you. With time, practice and experience, there is a chance your body will change as you get older, mature and have kids etc…I said “a chance”…

   I find if I dont go straight for the clitoris, like a little to the side, I can manage another one fairly quickly, as long as the vibration is not directly on the head. Or try to stimulate more towards the entrance of the vagina.

9. Most women can’t, it’s a vastly overrepresented population.

   75% can’t vs. 25% who can, IIRC.

10. Strengthening your pelvic floor with kegals can help with this! They can also make your orgasms stronger!

11. I used to only be able to have one (then I’d fall asleep immediately) but I found that lots of practice edging made it easier to handle more stimulation after an orgasm. I’ve been doing it for like two years and now I can get like 7 or so done in half an hour. I think the first one is always the best one though, the intensity feels like it peters out the longer you go.

12. For me, I need to be super super aroused. Like just desperate basically. I can’t always do it. And it’s very much just riding those waves of sensitivity and forcing your way through it. After a few seconds (that feels like forever), that over sensitive feeling is replaced by the pleasure train. Chug a chug, you can do it!