I (22m) have been dating someone (21f) for about a month. We’ve been good friends around a year and I recently asked her out because I was interested and wanted to see if there was something more there.
I’ve pretty much decided I don’t want a relationship with her. I know she does, though we haven’t talked about it yet. I’ve never initiated a breakup (I’m a serial dumpee) and don’t know how to approach this. I still think she’s awesome, I just don’t feel the chemistry that I have felt with other women and would prefer to be just friends.
Obviously I can’t go comparing her to other women when I talk to her, but does anyone have advice on what I can actually say to her? Any way to cushion the blow?
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Tell her exactly what you posted. Just be honest. There’s a chance that the friendship will be damaged, but I imagine you probably weighed that before you started.
Let her know you want to talk whether it be in person or over the phone. And basically tell her this. That you’ve realized your feelings for her are platonic and understand if she isn’t ready to go back to being friends so soon and giving her space.
“Wanted to see if there was something more here, but I’m not feeling it, sorry”
tell her what you just posted here. 💀 don’t lead someone on