hello. I’ve (20M) been through an abusive relationship recently and met a girl(20F) who helped me move on and leave my ex. this girl was also in an abusive relationship 1 month ago and we both received the same treatment of us giving too much and receiving too little. We became very close fast and she started love bombing (which I didn’t know was love bombing at that point) and got me attached to which we became a couple for a few days. then the next day she says she isn’t ready to say i love you back. then I confronted her and she said she doesn’t want to feel pressured by time. then after more and more talk, she said she doesn’t want to be in any relationship any time soon. She always told me I’m the one whom she dreams of having a relationship with and I’m her type and 1 in a million and so on. but when I asked for a relationship she says she doesn’t want any relationship soon. she says she doesn’t want to lose me and she needs me in her life and I’ve done a lot for her. she said we are more than close and best friends but less than lovers.
I asked her if she was ok being friends with someone who loves her and would use every chance to make advances on her to which she replied she finds it cute and nice. I told her I would stay her friend and try to win her over but I believe I may have made a dumb choice. I’ve met a lot of girls before and she has everything that I wanted so letting her go is extremely difficult for me.
She also said that she doesn’t even have any other guy that’s interested in her and that if she is not ready for a relationship with me than thier chances are 0
so here I ask you, should I leave her and pull away from her life or should i keep trying in hopes of one day we can be together? is there any final talk I can do that might change her mind or should i just give up? you can be as brutally blunt as you want
this means a lot to me and I thank everyone that helps even with a similar story.