Short introducction:
I am extremely lonely and desperate for close friends or a friendgroup. I am 16M from Amsterdam and in highschool. I would love some advice on my situation.
Situation:
Since a few months ago I started to stick with an already existing friendgroup at my school. During lunch breaks I sit with them at the table and try to talk with them. I really vibe with them and would love to be ‘officially’ part of their friendgroup. With that I mean getting invited to their (birthday)parties, plans to hang out, sleepovers, trips etc. I know they have a few group chats, but I am not in those and I want to be added to those. I think that way it is easier for me to be part of their plans. I dont think they dislike me or anything. I am just there and being casual friends with them.
So how can I get closer with them, as a group and individually? How do I get added in their groupchats? How do I let them know I want to hang out with them or atleast that I want to get closer to them?
Lately my social skills have been increasing but I still struggle with getting closer to people than just a superficial bond. So what I mainly need are or things to say to join their plans in a subtle way.