Partner hurts your feelings but won’t apologize

My (33f) husband (37m) sometimes says something out of pocket or takes a tone that hurts my feelings. When I tell him that it hurts my feelings, he gets defensive and explains that he doesn’t feel bad because he was annoyed or angry in the moment and I caused him to feel that way. It always turns into a yelling fight and both of us are angry. I cannot understand this. When he calls me on something I did that hurt his feelings, I have no issue with apologizing and trying to fix the behavior, but I feel like when I do to him, he typically brings up what I was doing that caused him to react negatively, then I apologize for that, but he doesn’t actually apologize because it was how he was feeling in the moment. He also says that because he doesn’t treat me badly in other ways like cheating on me or being lazy with the chores that I’m too sensitive and needing too much from him.

Help me understand this, please

Tldr: my husband won’t apologize for comments made when he’s angry or annoyed at me, and I don’t know if I should just get used to it.