After reading through all the feedback from [my last post](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/vcbq3k/33_m_profile_review/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3), I made some tweaks and got no where, so I took a hiatus. I’ve been going out for the past 3 months or so, per recommendations here and from my therapist, but as an introvert meeting someone at a bar feels next to impossible, especially as I am alone when I go out (friends are all too far away and married with newborns or kids under 3)
So I decided to get back into OLD. But first I called up my sister who does professional photography on the side to help me out. My biggest takeaway was I had bad pictures, and I hate selfies, so we did a photoshoot of sorts. Started from scratch on everything, took out any negativity or low-balling myself. I will say Hinge makes things difficult as there’s no summary and some of the prompts are weird. Also trying to balance between sharing info about myself and what I am looking for, but also be engaging and funny, all within 300-500 characters.
I am trying to put my best foot forward, any critiques or advice would be appreciated.
New profile here: [https://imgur.com/a/kYwS3wY](https://imgur.com/a/kYwS3wY) (pictures are in the order they appear in the apps)
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Really solid. Keep it exactly as it is.
Change the Groupon one to be more specific- best Groupon was ____ and something you learned/ enjoyed about it. Shows more of your interests
You already mentioned you’re looking for a relationship so use that prompt to share something about you.
Your bio is decent. I would remove the brunch is a good time, seems basic. Unless you add something like table pancakes are an essential at brunch.
You have to make your profile easy for someone to comment on something. I find if it’s too generic and I’m on the fence about pics I’ll swipe left.
Pics – hinge pics are good. Use them for bumble
Black belt => sweeping me off my feet = I feel like you’re going to do so violently? I think what you’re trying to say is you’re strong, right? I might be overthinking this.
I fully agree about the petting zoos. Seems like the kinda thing that’d make someone slap the table and say “goddamnit, yes!” I mean, I did.
Solid, if you aren’t getting matches it’s the “apolitical” 🙄 and “not sure about kids” – most women want someone on the same side of the political spectrum, so if you lean one way I’d update accordingly.
Solid profile! Good job.
I like it, wouldn’t change a thing. Good luck!
Fellow introvert here and sometimes I wonder how the heck I’m supposed to get back into dating when I would rather die than speak to a stranger in a bar. Oh and I have 3 cats, so there’s that lol! I like your profile, and like another Redditor said, really solid don’t change a thing!
Marvel, breweries, pizza, fuzzy animals… if I lived slightly farther north, I’d hit you up. Your profile is solid!
Bruh, that black belt opening line is fire! If women don’t get that, they’re not for you.
Gotta be honest though, your prompts for bumble don’t really sound great though. That Groupon thing is meh. “and soft things” sounds kind of creepy. Just keep it to “Animals”. Maybe try “Enjoy trying new things or learning new skills. I’m a big fan of finding new, unique experiences and hoping to find someone to try them with.” Or something like that.
Also, that dude in the yellow hat you’re with looks like this dude I used to know back in the day named Chris.
The pic in the blue sweater, sitting on the log is the best one.
At 33 you’re still not sure if you want kids? If you’re 95% sure that you don’t, then I’d say that upfront.
The thing about wooing made no sense to me… I get it but 🤷🏻♀️
The animal thing also… 🤷🏻♀️
I think it looks great!
You seem genuine and trustworthy with just the right amount of subtle masculinity. I’d swipe right on you all day!
A shame you’re so far away!
The only thing that would prevent me from swiping right is “apolitical”. I care about the world and “apolitical” to me sounds like “indifferent about others”. But if it is who you are, I wouldn’t suggest you change it. Otherwise a very good profile. Good luck!
Personally I almost always swipe left on anyone who puts “apolitical” (have an opinion) and “don’t know yet” for children. Better off leaving those blank and having a conversation about it later on-
Since the profiles are all about snap judgments.
Yes to indicating that you love trying new things and new experiences. Some people want to go to the same restaurant every time and order the same bland thing. This might prevent you from meeting a partner where you feel like you’re dragging them to new places.
It’s cute to have a pic of you holding a cat. If it’s your cat, that’s good. If it’s not your cat, then scrap it. It’s not the best pic of you in comparison to all your other pics. Maybe consider cropping it because the top of you looks stretched.
I’d swipe right, except I’d be worried that you’d make me watch Marvel movies with you and I can’t stand Marvel movies.
Id suggest to remove the “checking Groupon”, this sounds “cheap” even if it totally makes sense.
Prompts are a bit weird to me but then maybe it’s not me who you’re looking to attract with them and it’s fine.
Which app is the first one? I’m only on hinge on bumble..
Other than that I think it’s a good profile, I’d swipe right for sure 🙂
Starting with ‘I’ve got 2 black belts’ would put me off and then the corny line after if worse 😬
I’d skip it personally.