I have two thoughts on this:
When someone is anxious or just a bit off in some way, it can make people uncomfortable and people don’t want to feel uncomfortable. Dissociating with awkward people may not be very kind but they will likely give preference to those with better social skills.
Alternatively,
People are understanding and empathetic and it’s not difficult to give people a chance or look past any awkwardness or social mistakes if that person’s intentions are good.
Where do you think (on average) reality lands between these two?
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In general, not that forgiving. Anxiety, regardless of the situation that causes it, is a negative vibe in general. It suggests to other people you feel unworthy and unconfident to be around them and that you need people to validate you. People are hardwired to be repulsed by somebody who is unconfident and is too anxious to hold a conversation. People instead gravitate towards somebody who is self confident and feels worthy to hold a conversation. People gravitate towards somebody who is fun, interesting, or brings positive vibes and positive social energy.
The only way to reduce or eliminate social anxiety is to consistently go out and practice talking to people. You have to do the work.
in my experience as someone with very difficult social anxiety and a noticeable stammer, people may feel uncomfortable because they are worried they are being frightening and make interactions short and to the point because of that…but i dont experience outwardly inpatient people very often at all (esp if you remember that some people would be rude no matter how you interact with them)