Hi all .. dated a man 15+ years older than me I am 33f. Me and the man dated for two months. No physical touch at all.. I wondered if he was bi sexual. I have no problem with being bi sexual or pan, last guy i dated was a pan sexual US marine! Anyways I got to thinking maybe he just wanted me for arm candy. We had sleep overs and cuddled (amazing cuddles !!)
I always joked with him about him being a-sexual. He never said anything he would just laugh. Well we finally had sober sex, it was the worst sex of my life. I rode him reverse cowgirl because the thought of looking at him grossed me out. We exchanged a text the next day, i told him I think I ruined our emotional connection and that I was a sexual (I am not, but the sex was so bad I figured I would be with him)
I miss him wine & dining me and being cute arm candy. He ended our messages with he thought it was wrong to be “a-sexual” and he needed time to think. He just spent a week at fantasy festival in Key west (again, another hint why I think he may be bi) we haven’t spoke since we had sex. Should I apologize?
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That was kinda wild. So, no offense, but you basically like to have a sugar daddy but you don’t wanna have sex with him because you’re not attracted at all?
I think you should end this in a friendly way.
No
You can just let it go. Why do you feel you have to apologize and explain your actions? People get on with themselves and their lives. He’s out doing his thing, whatever that is, just let him. And find someone you can have sex with. It’s not right to be with someone if you can’t connect on a physical level.
I don’t need sex I’ve had bomb world winning sex, with that comes other bullshit. I rather have emotional connection now that he’s shown me