So sometimes when I’m giving my bf a handjob or blowjob I don’t actually want to receive anything in return (usually when I’m on my period or still sore from last time we had sex). So I ideally want to make him cum from this. However after a while of going down on him he always grabs me and flips me over for my turn and I never know what to say. What’s the best way to tell him I want him to cum from it? I don’t want to sound awkward or put too much pressure on him
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“I’m not done!” It’s the right level of playful and yet to the point. If it’s not to the point ENOUGH (because he is, after all, male.. and we *can* be pretty oblivious at times!) then say it in a way that cannot be misunderstood but is still sexy. “cum in my mouth” for instance. He might have questions the first time or two this happens but pretty soon he should get with the program lol.
Tell him ahead of time, I’m not in the mood for intercourse but I want to give you oral or a HJ until you finish. Don’t worry about me getting some, it’s what I want to do instead of sex.
Don’t frame it as “I want you to cum” as you are correct, that probably will put pressure on him if you literally spell that out for him.
Speaking as a man, I would say you should approach it in 2 ways:
1. Talk to him ahead of time, when sex is not on the cards and let him know what you said here – sometimes you don’t want reciprocation for the reasons you give here. Admittedly, if my wife told me this, it would take a little while for it to sink in, but it would definitely not them hurt my feelings if it came up later as I would be aware that it might be possibility – forewarned is forearmed after all.
2. Then when you are in the moment, if he tries to reciprocate and give you “your turn” just tell him something like “I don’t need anything right now other than to make you feel good. You can owe me next time”. Keep it light and playful so it doesn’t sound like a contract or anything, but that would definitely be better to hear than “I want you to cum” (have you ever liked it when a partner said that to you, after all?)